My experience so far dealing with people and what’s you can learn

It’s fairly hard to contemplate the fact that’s in order to win in life you need to learn to deal with people. Maybe I made a mistake leaving my business to someone else and only visit for important issues but all I know is the best decision I have ever done for myself. Today I had an incident and my people don’t understand that entrepreneurs or business people go through much hardship compare to what’s reach them in the bottom but that’s why their people and that’s why there are business people no disrespect though.

People wants attention

I have kept distance from people am serving and they can feel it, they don’t know why but I know if I’m not attached to them I can do my work properly and plan towards the future. The attention they need is real and necessary, I once left for a while and one night I came and find it was dark outside and no one is supposed to operate in darkness in 21st century so I fixed that’s. Today a big incident to them happened but to me it was nothing new bill was starting and they could wrap it around their heads it’s happened out of the blue. But for me as a business person I’m always ready to put out fire.

They hardly listen, especially if the agenda is theirs

As I was dealing with the situation I recently mentioned, my vise person later explained why the meeting was the way it was and why this people didn’t want to take responsibility. They misdirected me after the realization that’s I wasn’t hard on them, they didn’t study subtle signs from my opening speech that’s I’m not their enemy and I’m doing what’s best for them. As soon as I finished what’s I was saying they attacked the whole effort I was putting and I eventually felt bad and felt I missed my money.

Luckily my vice know this people very well and told me, they’re lying because they don’t want change. For the 1st time I saw sometimes being gentle backfire, it was my first time dealing with them and they already try to take advantage of me. They didn’t listen to my intro and they had their own agenda that’s they want to see come ahead and they succeeded but for few minutes until my vice lady told me what’s I didn’t know.

They never get satisfied

From the richest man in the world Mr. Jeff Bezos, he knew this earlier on that’s as a company that’s they should offer things to people before they realize they need it , that’s pure innovation because people will not settle for unchanging markets they move on with the hottest thing. This also apply to those people in a form of customers, workers or board the few individuals who can’t adapt to change or they don’t like something and they think you may just change the whole thing. If half of people have a same complain maybe that’s can be something to consider but one or two people are not enough. In my case above they all resist to the change, but it’s a necessary change and they know it, they just mad because it’s going to cost them. If I let it slide today then municipality will be on my case so they should understand and learn to live with it.

They want to be lead

Leadership is a position that’s will be always there, because people like to follow and be directed. I didn’t intentionally choose to lead some people but it’s I have been doing all my life or at least since grade 11 now I’m older and some people want me to do that’s job. There’s a thin line now, if you want my natural expertise you need to pay for it.

They constantly want pep talk and motivation if the is a vision, they want to feel their important. Today one of my dreams really came true but I just realize that’s now as I’m writing this, my dream is to address people on something important many people though. But I did  address them although I wasn’t effective because its felt like my 1st time and no preparations on my way there I was trying to figure what’s to say and I made a mistake and  talked 1st but I saw them kept quiet but I will get better.

You will never figure people 100%

People are easy to deal with but you as a person who might be in a position of power or you want to control the conversation and affection you need to strengthen yourself ,mindset and approach all the humility should be on you cause it’s very important to never forget that’s you are a person as well. Look for the books by dell Carnegie on how to win friend and influence people. As we as 25 laws of dealing with people by John Maxwell I don’t know if my title is right there but John Maxwell is your man.

Know sometimes you will miss the mark and you constantly need to practice dealing with people. Listen to them and know they’re your greatest assets in the most things you do. Love them and know they are like you after all.

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