Who is more valuable family or friends?

This might look like a question but most people fail to make this distinction in their lives that’s why we are showing the crucial differences today and how we have found to work best when making life decisions that’s involves this people in our lives.

God has bless me with both friend and family also have friends that’s doesn’t come close to my best friend who has become my adopted brother who we run this blog with. So let’s see if there are no lessons to be taken on this subject.

There are 3 type of friends , Friends for (Reason ,Season and for a Life)

This is self explanatory but as we know the elaboration open our 6th sense and we then connect the dots better. So comparing friends with family is a huge understatement we tend to value the blood thicker than water myth ,yet is true and we don’t choose our families while we choose friends.

The question is in this 3 type of friends which one is yours? If it’s for a reason get that’s over with and move on with your life and don’t hold on too much to that’s friend because what’s ever reason you are together will end someday.

The friend of a season can be good and bad if they love you if you are rich then run when you struggle then that’s a seasonal friend , others love you when you are poor like them when you better yourself they leave you.

And more type of friends so choose wisely for me a friend should always be there in good and bad ,rich and poor ,your family and his can also be close because of what’s you have .

Family over everything

I tend to agree with this one from the get go why because family can be your downfall in life or uplift so having them in their place can do you good.

The best think to realise is there are two type of family ,present one and future one if you still live with your mother and father sister brother and grandma then that’s your present family.

But if you are married and you have your own wife or husband and your kids then that’s future family ,what’s ever culture you build within this family will determine the better life experience you will have or life of grudges and hate you will have to endure .

Either way you can consider your family opinions in your life journey but it’s not family over everything ,but because they love you and emotionally attached they can be a great sheild from harm and hardship but some of that’s is necessary for you to build a thick skin for you ,in business and life in general.

People outside your immediate family have unbiased opinion and life lessons that’s can change your life for the better ,so question everything and every norm and old myths that’s blocks your path. Leaving your family is the first thing to test you and help you navigate life.

How many friends should a person have

This shouldn’t be a thing , why because nobody can keep up with a lot of friends let alone one with our busy morden lives but let’s say you have 10 friends which one is more valuable than other?.

For us friendship is like love relationship you need one or two more than that’s it’s all crumble down , for example one of your friends see you as a best friend while you see him or her as a regular friend ,then friction will start showing.

The best thing is to have equal friends and then one best friend because commitments comes with accountability and responsibilities. Facebook friends are not your friend are people you may know , same as Twitter and so on.

The more you build superficial freindships with no substance the more chances you will be used by other people and leave you holding the empty bag , build networks instead, business net ,social community net , book club net and so on positive stuff and please don’t hang with criminals and losse girls because that’s what’s yourl become.

You are the average of five people you spend your time with

Would you choose to spend time with 4 millionaires and you being the fifth or spend time with your 4 kids and you being the fifth.

Although this saying on my title can be contradictory its point is the more time with certain people you get to have their traits and habits as well as their beliefs.

With that’s said having a blog like this as a friend could be a huge leap forward into a cycle of your surroundings ,because you don’t necessary need physical friends to create a psychological cycle that’s with be the average of your thoughts we can be your mentor from far.

Now one friend add to your averages ,then your closest family members second and third your online mentors and positive vibes forth being your love partner and lastly its you and your decisions.

To summarize all this you are your worse enemy what’s ever you decide to take out of this blog is on you to implement it.

People treat you the way you treat yourself and them

See if you show people by action that’s you can be trusted and you keep your word people will reciprocate that’s.

Be a cruk , manipulate lie and cheat chances are karma will play it role so to have a family liveable with you need to be a brother ,mother ,father and kid that’s listen and put himself in other people’s shoes have humility and audacity when putting a point across like acting what’s you preach.

Same to maintaining a friendship for us ,you should be in business with your friend so the money you will make you can enjoy better together lol ,on a serious note you learn your friend best when you see his life skills and how he put out fires and that’s happens well in hustle.

I hope you found me friendly today fam , my goal is to turn this posts to a YouTube voice over videos and if you can pull that’s off 0840196532 whatsapp me.

And later on in life turn it into a book if you can get my right to collect all the posts ever made to chapters and adit it for a better good read . LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) that’s where you like us and follow this blog to get more interesting content #Spliff_Entertainment

Life with purpose is worth living

Today I I’m a position in my life, where I don’t have any qualifications that’s could help me get a reasonable paying job thus I’m not excited looking for a job. I did study radio production and finished it but I wasn’t planning to use that’s skill anytime soon, I did apply in the nearest radio station but no feedback and yet I know I will do this job as a hobby one day.

 The only way I have discovered meaning in my life is by continuous learning and self-education, financial education, and discipline and before I woke up I already learned something new but before I go into deep let me put this in point form so it will have a better context.

Have first source of income that’s doesn’t require your time.

Before telling the story above I did got a job as a welder and saved all the money to create one source of income and this doesn’t require great intellect only commitment to see it through.

I have set myself free from financial trap and now I’m busy learning and planning and drafting my future ,although its took me a while to have a written goals that’s I kept going back to but I always have important things in the back of my mind and eventually see them through. It hard to think or learn if your focus is on your 9-5, after it you don’t try to outgrow your yesterday self.

Once money is not your core problem then it’s coming to you every month or day, then you can start and plan your future of cause you can do it after work and sleep a bit late because the bills are already there maybe the child or two as well. What’s I will do on that’s case my kids will have to grow quickly so they can help me build their better future.

Be humble in a pursuit of your life purpose

My grandfather a successful business man is so humble and has humility to put himself in the shoes of the struggling people when he speaks and for that’s I respected him more.

For me I was a bit arrogant seeing my things working out while others were struggling to make ends meet ,but after couple of failures I realized life is unpredictable if I don’t strengthen my weapon (Mind) and mind my own business ,I might end up like people who are struggling and all of my hustle will be history.

I have received a better explanation from YouTube on success TV that’s being successful is not having millions in a bank, although that’s can be important to other people it doesn’t means that’s what important to you as well. If you have passion like music you know your life purpose is around to one day performs for thousands of people and have your song on radio around the world.

If you just got married you also know your next important life purpose is having kids and take care of one another. If you want to have money and experience different kinds of things in life you might want to start a business and endure what’s to come or study to get a lucrative job.

 Here is what’s I have realized if I was not in some place someday and got introduced to a certain thing I will still be alive and oblivious of, but here is another catch there are a lot of things you should treat it that’s way even if they have been presented to you, especially if you have figured out your life purpose you can tell they don’t align then dismiss them.

Everyone knows the world is noisy and Corona made it worse before this pandemic I was oblivious of what’s was happening in the world because it had nothing to do with my long term or short term goals and that’s not being not humble or curious about what’s happening in the world “No” but because I’m still focusing on my money and how to get more of it and I cannot let news’s or daily 30 minutes show distract me. With my leisure time I study learns and listens to productive stuff.

Waking up and happiness will be linked to your life purpose

Other people have got used to waking up early because of the habit their jobs give them although they have to snooze an alarm once or twice, the day you wake up consistently fired up to do something is the days you would’ve realized your life meaning.

This doesn’t mean it won’t get hard but if you can endure hardship on that’s a thing and come to the other side better than you will have a life worth living. You may be a boss of a company that’s won’t mean you will always be nice to your workers, it’s part of your job to be mean and do all the pep talk but apart from that’s you shouldn’t be a hard head outside of that environment.

For example is never a perfect idea to work for your family member because you take discipline talk to heart and you may need special treatment which is not called for, unless he was there in the beginning and you understand one another traits.

It’s take me a serious move for me to loosen up or enjoy a milestone because I have been through so much even in the love department I don’t get too excited too early no one is perfect and small thing usually rub people the wrong way. And sometimes a person get into bed with you for different interior motives and by the time you find that’s you get blown in a heart and loose all the momentum, this applies in business with our partners changing a direction after a year or 5 years after.

In short part of your happiness should rely purely on you not anybody else, not even your child because we may try to saw a good seed to them but we don’t really know how they will turn out.

If the title is good, the content is probably is too

It’s true we judge a book by its cover, and we judge people that’s way too. But I want to add to you reading this, in most cases there are reasons people look the way they do and if you can get to the bottom of that you can find the whole thinking of someone.

This also mean find the person looks, dress and smell good on the outside, what about the place he lives in? Does he or she reads  ,if not where does he get his ideas about life and the most important thing do you want to be acquaintance with this person?

I’m 29 years old now and I don’t feel that’s age and I cannot associate it with my 23 years old me ,except the way my mind has grown from past 3 years I have started investing on myself by learning ,here is where I’m going with this I still have friends I met while I was in high school and they are not growing that much ,some do but the important values I appreciate in a person are not there and we are slowly diverging and I cannot stop this process no matter how much I like them since we are losing common ground hanging out is a bad call and I’m making sure for now I’m not encouraging the connection again since other’s are changing for the worse and they know it.

Contrarily to the subtitle some people work hard on their out appearance than the necessary tools they possess in their heads so be careful, others are fake and sometimes I feel like fact when I’m around big fishes but I know I’m dedicated because if Jim Rohn could come now and ask me to show him my financial goals,I will pass that’s test or ask for my schedule or ask to spend a day with me I will not get a total but I won’t be a total disaster either.

What’s makes your life worth living

I have imposed my beliefs in you and you have bought it into a certain extend and thank I’m honored to influence you where ever you are, would you do me an honor to return a favor. Comment below and let me learn about your philosophies and see if I can’t grow from them.

Right now is the anxiety for me, I really don’t know what’s next I have variables I can control and some I can’t so not knowing what’s next makes my life interesting cause this month I received 40k and a girlfriend last month if I said I knew this things will happen I would have been lying but for this to happen I had to position myself, go out and make small talk and present my case and I don’t do this for a living it’s just what’s happened.

For most people anxiety is a bad thing because they focus more on the negative bad things that’s might happen next ,I challenge you to anticipate that’s less and get on with your business expecting bigger and better returns. Writing this blogs is something I do because I have a lot of time in my hands and that’s really nice,I have things that’s I need to do but they’re not that demanding or actually my responsibility ,I do feel some kind of guilt when I work below my potential but still I will never know my full one I have to start where I am and move up.

The paranoia and always being aware and the new ability I have to talk sense, you wouldn’t believe this but I once found myself failing to talk well with people or filter myself my thought then usually comes out as they are and my friends told me and I kept getting better and have learnt to keep my mouth shut not in a awkward way but listen more.

In closing I’m no longer scared of people this was a serious realization that’s stopped many people from pursuing their life purposes, how did I do it I simply kept learning and reading a book and got confident that every time I’m around people I probably know something they don’t know which is important so there is no reason to be scared of anyone, a doctor, nurse, police, lawyer or anyone in a position of power I tend to be cool with them and actually be curious about their profession and then we will get the ball rolling.

Thank you for spending time with me today, if last year this time I knew I will be writing and sharing information I‘ll probably picture myself doing this but it’s started from an article for ULwaz No Makhula music artists and the YouTube channels I follow the most kept saying they started on Blogs and actually recommended it and it got clear since I have a background in writing scripts for radio why can’t I build a powerful community that can benefit from my insights and knowledge as well as life experience. Here we are now part of us and follow us to not miss anything we do here, YouTube is possible in the near future and you don’t want to miss that’s too.

Never take your 9-5 job for granted

In a self help society we living in, there is a huge resentment in jobs and people preaching self employment and being your own boss. But today I want to share a light of this trap, unless you work towards something bigger than where you are then you shouldn’t not hate your job, even if you have big dreams job will help you achieve them quicker and keep a bit of security. I want to add don’t let your consumerism habit keep you in a job that’s you hate not because you need it, but because you want to pay for your lifestyle not necessitates. 

  1. The easy way to get a better job is to have a job in a first place

This job will offer you experience and skill and some sort of mastery on what’s you will be doing everyday. and Taking that’s lightly and be deceived by gurus who ask you to take risk and leave your job ,you can always do that’s but make it a calculated move ,have already have a demanding business and reasonable income before taking that’s leap and have the ability to leave below your means.

Leaving the job you have right now might make it hard for you to get another job so be careful making this move as the subtitle say ,people refer the jobs to other people who are at the workplace ,meaning the reference only comes from the fact that’s this working people wants to improve their work standards not leave it completely to fairytale of running a business. In this blog we emphasize entrepreneurship but we also understand it’s not for everyone.

  • Job is not only a hard work to make a living or being in an office all day but it everything you do.

Here is a wakeup call, your job offers you the route with a reasonable stress unlike what’s your boss handles everyday .The job will make things happen for you, the only thing I can suggest is not treating your 9-5 as a way of life but while working try to escape the need to work by building something aside that’s will end up making equal money with what’s your present boss pay you.

 Here you should make research and invest on something that’s won’t make you lose money, if you can do this you have a chance of becoming a business person. For example building a rental rooms and take a rent every month if you can keep that’s up using your own income in three years you can make serious money just avoid improving your lifestyle when this happens because it will cost you your progress and you will be stuck at your job and not appreciate your new job of being a landlord.

Actors, musicians, Youtubers and other influencers are also working and not working is also working because you cannot go through a day without doing anything. So our 29yrs advice is make looking for a job a new job and also try to be creative and start your own job without being hired and try to grow and get out of the dip quickly.

  • A job is a ticket to your dream life or your plateau

I don’t factor much how much you are making because what’s you are making you agreed to at the time you started working it was good enough and you created wants that’s ended up making it like is small. The best way to raise your level of living is starting by increasing your income, so if you don’t know how to increase your income then increasing your stuff will leave you broke and miserable in the money side of things.

Success TV says don’t treat your pay slip or wage as a fruit of your labor but a ticket to your desired life , meaning don’t take your earnings and eat it all ,invest most and live on some. The lives of people becomes absolute because their philosophies about life has became absolute and if you already thinking like that’s you should start and be open to new ideas from people who are doing better than you in life .

 If you want to learn and improve your marriage learns from people who have been married longer than you and seems to be happy and same apply to finances. Because reaching a plateau is when you are in your high paying job and think you have made it in life, because you have a car, wife, kid and house.

That’s not true life is still going to throw problems in your life and you should be ready a wife can leave you and take your stuff if you don’t have prenuptial agreement or a kid may have a problem ,so as you master your work life and relationships also master the mindset and your environment.

  • To make the most out of your job use cash and avoid premiums

This is not a professional financial advice is the advice that I used, don’t use the money you don’t have to impress people that’s don’t care about you, even if they care its won’t matter when you work to pay debts for the most of your life. Enjoy the income as it come and budget if you can and try to have more money left over at the end of the month.

Look at your budget and look at the things you can eliminate and see things that’s no one will die if you don’t have them, new shoes, new clothes, new TV and so on and use those funds and double them in a form of selling something and adding profit or creating a cash flow recurring rental that’s when people will be paying premium to you rather than you paying premium to them.

  • Work is not a verb is a management system

For the country to strive its needs more producers than consumers, consumerism cause obesity and other problems while production cause great economy for everyone. Now as AI and AR is about to change the way we work ,working physically hard is slowly getting irrelevant and this goes back to the reason of working in the first place ,its was a management system what’s adults will be doing when kids are at school?

They will be at work and what do kids will be doing while parents will be at work they will be in school learning how to work and all the unnecessary things school teaches. This has became a system the countries are governed but this doesn’t mean so much work is necessary. Agriculture is necessary work as well as doctors and lawyers and some other important industries.

But the most striving business which is a transport business as for luxury cars which are what’s people work for in our days its what’s makes people get stuck in a system ,instead of getting a car that’s will do the work taking you from point A to point B ,we also want to show off to our social society and that’s make our jobs a verb something we have to do instead of trying to get out of the system by making money work for me ,while I explore my other talents and passions.

So as of today topic don’t resent work if it doesn’t fulfill your needs, look at your expenditure, what’s you do with that’s money because work shouldn’t fulfill you if it does that’s a big up for you, unless it’s your passion or you find meaning in what’s you are doing and the environment and you wouldn’t choose anything else but if you complain of being stuck, you are stuck in a system better yourself and get out.

Well here we are to the end of today’s topic and we hope its find someone who needs it .And from now onwards you will start seeing your work as not the end of the world if it is, then it’s the world you love living in. If you have accepted your situation and live to pay bills consider the possibility of not being able to support what’s ever you are supporting with your income?

Thanks for taking the time we can go forever just appreciate and be grateful of your job but don’t think you cannot do well than that’s but if you already living a simple happy life don’t complicate it ,keep that’s emergency fund and security for your family.

Self control is very important here is why

This topic should be encouraged and be talked about more often, the reason I’m touching this is because growing up we should be able to control our impulses and deliberate on things. I don’t know how long I can push this subject so please help me out and comment as well.

You can avoid doing things that’s will cause you serious problem

If you are in a love relationship you can avoid, falling for other person by disciplining yourself to avoid any signs of chemistry between you and stranger’s. This is work and you should not take it lightly and your friends should respect your ways, but take charge of that’s situation and move away from that’s influence.

Rape is a buy product of lack of self control that’s why you should be of sound mind when you make decisions and actions. But don’t get this confused life is risky and you should be willing to take those risks that are needed to be taken to reach positive heights of life. But unnecessary risks of sleeping with a girl while she is saying no are a big mistake.

Emotional abuse is a huge tool that’s people use to manipulate people ,for a woman it’s a powerful to a partner to make him do what’s she wants’ and don’t mistake this for influence ,influence is made naturally and gain both parties emotional manipulation is one sided gain and its always backfire so if you are a lady using this negative techniques to get things done in your relationship control yourself earlier before you find yourself in a bad position of losing a good man because of your wrong deeds , you might not cheat or anything tangible but games of mind and always suspending and playing the detective type can be a problem in a long term relationship.

You can be good with money

We live in a money world and its takes a discipline and self controlled person to manage it properly and for me this is the skill I’m trying to master by all means to the point that’s at home I am a treasurer and for years I have been trustworthy and kept the books well all left is to multiply it. If you can think through your purchase and really factor the money going out and how much time to get it, you will be in your good control to buy needed things than wants, you will seek assets more than liabilities and as you grow and maybe become a business person in your life you will buy liabilities with the business tax money cause you will be controlling every aspects of your money life.

It’s a normal thing to hear people say live below your means, what’s I should emphasize to you is that’s doable and you can try it. Instead of spending your whole paycheck, spend at least 60% and save 40% this will be a good test of your self control and the strength of keep going and your ability to control your emotions and eager to buy stuff you don’t need and you will be able to stick to the budget.

Here is the example from myself, I earn 5000 a month and straight up R1200 goes to the savings, then R500 goes to my family as support as I still live at home and what’s left goes back to the business and I’m usually left with nothing or less than R300. But as people we are not the same other’s have cars and drink alcohol and have all sort of things but control means simplifying your life you should try to do that’s by all means and avoid having habits like drinking mess with your live below my means plan.

You can control your emotions

By keeping calm when you are angry doesn’t means you don’t know how to act on it and make noise like other people do. But that’s level of self control you have or you need if you blast when you mad at someone. The breath in and out technique or moving away from the individual trying to test you can work and keep you out of jail and doing something you can regret.

If we can let our emotion get over us people will be showing streams of tears everyday but somehow we have mastered that’s part as we grow but still deep down we hurt. So what’s do you do when unfortunate thing happens to you? Well firstly I can say let the process of sleepless night and thinking over and over take place then move yourself from that’s situation especially if your body is still intact.

As days goes healing will take place but don’t give in to giving up and blame and so on just have a view of who I wanted this to happen to except me? Or what’s this lesson has for me and so on ,yet you are hurting and you’ve lost and schemed by that’s life and if you expect the good only in its you won’t do anything meaningful in life and you don’t want to be in that’s position.

You will have courage and confidence in yourself

You see in closing having a cell phone free at home that’s no call might mess with your other half is a real peace of mind. The courage part is knowing that’s you can handle everything coming your way because you are aware and mindful of everything that’s happening around you. For me my weakness is really feel if a lady embarrass me or rejection in general but I have grown to deal with it cause I’ve been applying the sales man skills, the courage to approach still in that’s state of expecting anything and knowing I can handle my embarrassment is what’s has kept me going, in both selling and approaching.

Moving on untouched territory needs focus and really a player mindset, so say for the 1st time you are buying a big purchase say a car what’s will you do? here what’s I will do because its minimizes risks, I will go with my uncle who has bought two cars and tell him to help me with most things except negotiations because that’s part should be mine and I will be paying unless he is a better negotiator, the courage here is knowing that’s you not good at anything and get help.

It will be a general skill that’s will do you good

I have a tendency of telling people I know that’s I read books so the knowledge I usually share has a reference, I hardly have my own opinions my this information I read has turn out to be mine because I use it and its doing wonder’s for me and I happen to have a positive attitude and high self esteem and you can put me with anyone we can connect.

I wasn’t always like this it started in 2018 January when I follow certain channels in YouTube and its introduced me to business and books ,and last week in YouTube I found the contracting videos that’s is against too much personal development and there and there I had to try and balance the whole thing and avoid scammers and fake gurus , while realizing that’s they may be fake guru but if you believe in their information and apply it  its works and books may do the work so I won’t stop but balance real life and studying and doing .

Back to the subtitle the  general skill is ability to engage with people ,introvert is not a good character traits you might miss opportunities and if you are an open person and end up hanging with everyone who will do you no good then you will have a problem. If you control yourself you will know when to speak and know when to shut up , know the timing and really avoid what’s I use to do with ladies ,I wasn’t considerate if a girl disappear the whole day on the phone I’m starting to suspect ,so instead I should’ve gave those ladies the benefit of the doubt and let them live their lives and come back to me when they miss me to the point that the relationship is that’s serious.

Thanks for paying us a visit, I’m sorry for not releasing any topic yesterday to all LnM day ones you know I don’t miss a day without writing, please follow us on all socials as ULwaz No Makhula