Welcome to LnM, we tend to write subjects of our own and avoid catchy topics because we might not do justice. Today’s topic about Self-awareness and your surroundings cannot be far from significance, that’s why we thoughts it could be a good idea to talk about this and really take a moment for yourself to embrace it.
Make it, your life mission to seize a moment
Missing a point, missing your mark and really not having a north star is really other people’s reality but please make sure to not be yours reading this. Do the math, calculate your moves ahead of time like they do in chess and when you hit your target celebrate and be aware that’s is happening and seize that’s tiny moment.
When I was growing up, I didn’t know there were so much possibilities in the world and how really successful people spend their days. Then one day I found myself excited, I was buying my 1st property and paying for my girlfriend damages for impregnating her. In short I was manifesting the person I always claim to be, business minded and responsible but that’s not what’s got me excited. What’s got me happy was looking how far has I come in life and still manage to reach those goals.
Back to you looking at your achievements, do they still resonate with you today? Were they worth it or what’s everybody expect you to do? Do you impact your experiences or you don’t plan your days? It’s important to ask yourselves this questions because they will show you if you are living or just hustling towards your dearth date.
If you not sure what’s happening around you and within you ,or look at your emotions from outside looking in you will have a problem of not knowing how to deal with those circumstances. For example the feeling you feel after an argument, and how you handle that’s situation is a different between a person who act out of anger and a person who act out of thoughts and bigger picture.
Be aware of things beyond your control and those within it
The natural disaster is out of your control, beating yourself for the damage it has done is something you should do less and get back to pick up pieces and put your life back together. Today I was talking to a guy, who we meet mostly for music related stuff and when he was leaving we started talking general stuff. Being the person that’s I am I gave him a chance to speak and I had to dismiss most of the things he say’s but not arguing but for showing him my perspective.
The pandemic is out of my control as an average person and how ever its affect the world or SA economy that’s not my primary concern which was my answer to what’s we were talking about. My primary concern it’swhat’s I can control, my personal finances and my lifestyle, he got me and we changed the subject.
So you too guard your mind from talking about things that’s don’t connect much to you in a community level , I think the reason why people spend a lot of time talk about corruption and the lot of money that’s is borrowed by our government it’s because they don’t have their own money to worry about. If you are one of those, you need to do a self-check all the news and things that’s try to come to you as important analyses them and look at them as they are, things that’s won’t matter in 6 months.
But if you start cultivating good relationships now and maintain them with right people in the same 6 months you will be ahead in life. If you start saving your money for a certain investment at the end of the year you will have something to be proud of except your bonus.
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Find a way to hold yourself accountable
This Blogs are just that’s ,at some point you reading them you will want to know me better and I would like to reveal more of me and my friend but we owe it to you to be way successful 1st then take a full stand behind our teachings ,so this is our way of holding ourselves accountable.
What’s will be your way? How will you build a self-discipline and do the hard things in your life to put yourself to the position to win? There are things that’s people do that’s looks easy but are actually hard, and there are those that’s are easy but looks hard for e.g. working for a boss who will give you daily tasks is much easier than what’s your boss does managing and trying to scale the company and looking a job for you in the process while making sure you do it.
A person working on assembly line is doing an easy repetitive job, compare to a person sitting in a computer working his mind off trying to balance a company account or preparing a presentation for the board. So in all of that I encourage you to find that’s challenging work or build it for yourself after work so your life will have a meaning than being on a cruise control and having things easy. Why this is important, easy things don’t require much discipline and you can do them even in the last minute and no extra effort necessary and if what’s you do is that’s way ,then you won’t have anything to hold yourself accountable in. Your mistakes are taken by your supervisor, who has to deal with a manager and you can be reckless knowing that’s the decision to get you out of the door is that’s hard.
The goal of this is not for you to resent your present job ,but be aware you can do better in your life ,for those who’ve been selling in the streets you might be making decent money but you have to improve your vision and don’t settle .keep learning and apply what’s you learn and if you scared leave someone else in your spot while you try to do better.
Happiness is a buy product of living life accordingly
Happiness is a serious subject and you need to study it, so you won’t conflict it with other subjects like having money or being riply fit and so on. Although that’s is important but into an individual level there is enlightenment that’s most people hardly reach ,and we or I’m not also there yet but I tend to understand something the more I learn the less paranoid I become.
To you that’s can be ,the more I spend time with my family ,the more I get to know they better and thus be able to associate with them. Family is something’s that’s has an automatic effect ,you don’t choose it yet when you have it ,you don’t necessary wish to be with other family .You can envy what’s they have but you know deep down my home is way warmer .
I have been set to be aware of work ,family ,health ,finance and people to make my life happy , meaning if I got all of that’s right I won’t have a happiness problem of Couse stress now and again but knowing how to deal with people will reduce it.
Working is very important, and nothing seems to beat it. During lockdown I got a gf in Twitter because somehow I’m still browsing then the moment ,she got back to her real life ,which I assume is work and maybe other things she didn’t tell me about ,I lost her clearly that’s wasn’t my girlfriend yet and I was so naïve to open up so quickly ,she might have been overwhelmed by my straight forwardness but that’s moment hurt me and I’m still dealing with it and I’m aware of my misstep’s , I saw some of the red flags of why our relationship might not work but dismissed it. So from that life experience of mine please be careful of looking for happiness in places that’s don’t have any track record of that’s. And pay attention to the details.
Know what’s rub you off the wrong way and try to avoid it by any mean , For me being committed early to relationships hurt me and I really need to work on that’s. Know what’s lift your spirit up and seek it but not leaving important things seeking this feeling. Know your strengths and weaknesses and improve and bet more on what you already finds easy if it has a better rewards in your life.
This piece is mainly about self and unless you in a right place you cannot deal with the world around you. And if you are not special in any way you cannot be different from people around you then that’s the weakness unless people around you are successful and depending to your definition of success, if your nearest surrounding has all you want in terms of character, material things and more then you doing somewhat well in your life because those people won’t let you in their cycle if you don’t have what’s its takes to be like them some day.
Other thing know that’s there is no highest level keep pushing the bar higher and take other people advices with a grain of salt including this ones and make the decisions you can be able to live with.