Why it’s important to admit when you are wrong

Are you a kind of person who rub their dirt into other people? Or you never take responsibility it’s a habit you cultivated back in school? Maybe it’s time for you to change. Yesterday at work with my Forman we were discussing a bible the theory that’s Adam & Eve didn’t want to take the responsibility of eating a fruit other said I was given other say I didn’t know and other said the snake led us. Because of that’s God got angry and we all humans species has to suffer that’s according to believers . On the other hand science make it our responsibility to find out our origin and stop using superstition and stories. That’s why today we look at the benefits of taking responsibility and what’s comes after it.

  1. You get everyone involved off the hook
    The cake has been eaten in the fridge and you know it’s you ,what do you do? Tell the truth nah mom will have to beat us all , well as you grow life is not like that’s in order to be successful and be accounted with more opportunities transparency is key. Talk when done good or bad and relief everyone who might be in jeopardy ,selfishness it’s not only when you want the progress yourself in the cost of others but also putting everyone under the truck just because you don’t want to say im not a fit driver.
  2. You show leadership qualities
    Admit and repair should be your motto and don’t make a big deal out of it. Simply acknowledge you shortcomings and apologize effectively by seeing to it that’s you don’t repeat the same mistakes or make it up to everyone by creating more value which will make your mistake minor in comparison. When time comes for promotion , or inheritance I asure you ,the best candidate is someone who has a story and some sort of history because being a nobody is never a good trade off ,by all means stand out even if it means make some mistakes.
  3. You will grow
    Yesterday I did a serious mistake at work and potential of getting a warning yet I wasn’t in a mood to make excuses even though that’s what’s would’ve got me off the hook. My supervisor asked me ,Mr Ngcobo are you owk personally and I said yes and he asked why are you damaging the work and I really didn’t know what’s happened so I promised to pay attention . What’s you would’ve done ? Make excuses ,it’s Monday or didn’t sleep weel? Whose fault is that’s? By admitting you disarm a person who is trying to discipline you , and other things you say can be used against you ,rather take a fall and come back strong. The growth part ,not learning from failure is a sign of giving up too soon or the person inability to connect dots may be over trusting the people & process. You get screwed on a deal you should move differently towards another one because of the lessons you learnt from previous one.

How to spend your first/early paychecks (Salary/ Wage)

No one should ever tell you how to live your life or handle your finances for that matter but since you are already here its means you are smart and know that’s you can never know everything. Instead of winging it you decided to learn on the topic. DISCLAIMER:

You may also need to get professional financial advice to full proof your money handling. This is general knowledge that’s most people don’t know about without waste of time let’s get to it.


Act like you are still unemployed
The best way and most effective way to get return on your hard work is to wait before making any purchase with your money ,read blogs like this and give your dreams and financial wants a thought.

For starters here is the only thing you can do right away with few percentage of your money, put aside bus fee and pocket money for food at work and then give your family a fixed sum that’s you going to give every month nothing more nothing less.

And the chunk of the cash left keep it or put it in an account where you cannot access it and then live like a student till the next pay day and so on, the goal of your working is to make money and it’s the way that’s seems safe and secure but that is also going away since times are changing but while we still earn we might as well treat our lives like a business and have a profit at the end of the month

Avoid temptation and impulse spending
Be careful passing near KFC and craving a wing lets the smell pass and be strong and be vigilant of what’s is happening but don’t get hooked.

Other people will study you and try to use your good heart to get hold of your money people you trust maybe family as well be careful ,for me it’s happened this weekend I came home and I just got back to work and they think I got paid or something and something tragic happened and they immediately tell me , they know I have a good heart and I have helped a family member in a same situation before but this time the timing was obvious and I couldn’t fall for a trap and I sympathize with them but not engage.

With that said you should save your first salary from reciprocal technics and compliance technics that’s are going to be used on you, simply help intellectually and physically but not financially unless is a matter of life and dearth situation.

Don’t share pics of money and don’t make promises
The goal of this piece is to help you cultivate the habit earlier and radically ,the promises you make to people and yourself may be costly also something awkward happened to me yesterday it’s my second time getting a good paying job but my passion is music.

It’s happens that I know the guys who make good music and I promised to contribute to their projects financially I won’t say names and the type of projects because I respect this people and their work.

With an offer of contributing 30% on what’s I wish to be done per person the other guy came aside and ask for more and for different project I don’t understand and don’t wish to invest into.

What’s the motive of this story? The people you try to help with your money sometimes miss the point and feel entitled and that a really bad response to free help with no expectation of profit.

This one may sound arrogant but it’s fits well with the subject at hand ,when I was switching jobs I left my brother with the old one and it’s pays well nothing like me but still you live well in it guess what’s happens.

It’s a third month now and he can’t budget properly and he enjoys everything life has to offer and end up having no food where he lives and that’s where I come in. Do you see how unfair this is? I literally give someone a job and still he lives lavishly and expect me to support him anyway, I do have a good heart but this is when I cry like the most I don’t have money and then he will make another plan.

I’m not trying to diminish anyone’s dignity here but in order for you to see where your paycheck go, you need to see people who stop you from having money, since this is family and friends they don’t pay interest on your money and it’s cost you time and charges transferring the money which is something they fail to pay back.

Live frugally and don’t make huge commitment earlier in life
This is not a best advice but do it with a plan to maximize your means. Commitments like getting married early or having a child or a big house is not a good money spending earlier on. Stay home use public transport and try to date one girl or boy try to simplify your life as much as possible and don’t socialize too much cause you might be influenced badly and most importantly don’t abuse substances you are not missing anything in life by not drinking alcohol and smoking.

Other people say substances help them thing but I doubt powerful people in the world hit a blunt every time they need to make a big decision, even though you are a regular person habit’s that costs money shouldn’t be your favorites.

Give money for bills and let other family member’s take care of it and focus on your spending strategy because if you go to the shops yourself you can go above and beyond because you love your family.

Why save money?
Maybe you are working your favorite job and you are now permanent but since you wake up in the morning and sometimes snooze the alarm and maybe have other dreams in your life that’s the reason you save money to explore the other side of life.

Or on the other hand is your safe heaven if something happens to you or your job, money has many potential and you definitely know you’re thus save it. There are other systems of saving but what’s I believe also work well is putting money away by yourself don’t let any mutual funds or schemes handle it ,trust yourself and discipline yourself and prioritize your life thus your money as well.

Think of other source of income so your paycheck won’t have too much weight and needs ,that where I’m at my sources of income pays for my living and my salary stays for opportunities and self-improvement.

Thanks for checking us out please do read other interesting blogs and improve your understanding of life and hear other’s views who aspire to do well in life. Follow us on social media as (ULwaz No Makhula) LnM.

Why being efficient can literally save your life

The days of our lives are when we are living, no matter what are we are doing but we are surviving and hoping for the next day and so on and so on. Now imagine on your days you get your work on time, your schedule on time or even earlier

The parkerson law

The law states that’s your income rises to meets your expenses, same applies to time you busy rises to meet the equivalent time you have on the day. This Law can be forced it hand to work for you by simply stop procrastinating or delaying tasks and when you do those tasks avoid distractions or schedule distractions as well for example don’t go one hour head down on the project but rather split it in 15 minutes then 5 minutes breaks.

This idea may seems like less efficient but trust me it is ,on the other hand if you are a creative person you can simply decide not to get out of your zone until you have finished your verse or your painting or that’s line of code.

Question may be what’s if I work with people ,say you work at SARS taxation government institution for example ,what I saw from an old woman there who I really found she was really efficient  was no small talk and she was literally running to the printing machine to get papers and letting me sign.

When it’s comes to the money there are lot of strategies but it’s easy to start them the moment you found yourself having money e.g. you got a new job set up a stop order that’s will take portion of the money automatically, I did that’s when I got my first high paying job and by the time I got retrenched I had 250 000 in my account. So be efficient in both your financial life and productivity.

Downside to effectiveness of efficiency

Anything has positive and negatives, left and right, disadvantage and advantages, hot and cold your job is to find what works well for which situation is. In studying when trying to do the assignment needed end of the month on the next day you got it ,results becomes amazing but if you do it under pressure on the last minute depending on the type of person you are other’s give terrible results other strive on it.

Don’t run the risk of not getting the work done, I once thought I gave my best when I work under pressure but I ended up studying in a taxi and rarely get a grip of what’s I learnt and as a results fail the tests.

Tomorrow I’m going for a job interview it’s a no brainer that’s I have to be there on time but if inefficient is my habit I can suffer those consequences so I need to get myself on the right track and prep for the big day. It’s not just being there on time but think about the effective respond to questions and when I’m given the chance to ask questions I should have smart questions.

Another problem when trying to be early you lose batch of time when nothing happens to cause latency ,for example I have an interview at 8:00 and I arrive there at 6:30 its crucial how I spend this time cause that’s still a moment of my life being recorded and accounted for. I may have a small talk with others who are waiting for the same thing or read a book on job interview but be careful of not causing myself unnecessary anxiety and so on.

Saving your life part

As I explain in the intro life is made out of seconds and minutes once you finish a task of an hour within 45 minutes you give yourself a 15 minute break to do what you is ever like and that’s true living.

On other hand if say you on a negotiation meeting and your company or you are an independent sales man and you know the sooner you close you get your fat commission or split the difference and hurry to your vacation with your family ,here the sooner the better is the mantra but rule of thumb never allow time to put you under pressure on negotiation but if you have got your number you have to option bargain hard or hurry to the vacation one may lengthen the talks while the other may lengthen the vacation it your choice but when factoring time closing is a good option.

This automatically and temporally save your life from working to actually living , here is the big one as an example how fast can you work in order for you to retire early? It’s can be office work or physical work they both take toll on your physical and mental health so the difference is irrelevant at this point, working fast is not an answer but working hard and smart is see working on you after hours is more important in your life because it will give you ideas on how you can retire early.

On other hand working hard and getting promotions is a great bet but your goal is to increase your income ,take over time but make time for your family either prioritize family and get used to that don’t run away hiding behind your work find balance.

Be efficient on your family thus you will see that’s your job matter but once you retire what’s you will retire for, families become dysfunctional because we don’t know what’s happening in our homes and parents are respected because their the bread winners but children don’t know the values in this home or principles and being efficient in that’s area will reduce corporal punishment and have kids open to you.

I will pounder on this point because it’s important, your health getting things done reduce stress level two rather write your tasks on paper and snooze them if they keep showing up while they’re still not urgent than having pile of tasks in your head.

Me my head have all the room in the world important are written on my phone and I get reminded all the time ,my goals are on my paper I check them when I get bored and sometimes see that’s I need new goals cause I have already crushed those without realizing it.

Parento principle 80/20 rule

You are not what’s people expect of you ,you are like water you can change form to the present positive or negative situation you find yourself in. This lesson is found on 48 Laws of power by Robert Green, be flexible but the above principle applies to every aspect of life.

Our lives 80% of them are spent at work and 20% on our lives. The question is do you like the ratio or you wish to change it, some of us find meaning to our jobs and we are completely ok others well you know. 80% of your income goes to 20% of the things meaning you have one thing that’s waste most of your money and it’s not spread equally and my advice on that’s is to be efficient on your money have those 20% be assets which are things that’s pay you money back. 80% of your time is spent on social media and where your attention goes that’s where your life and money go.

Your car is too old needs constant repair after bills be aware of it ,car is important when it’s comes to people who moves around a lot and their business depends on it other than that’s it can be a real money waster unless you value every minutes of your life but still drive according to the speed limit.

Decisions and lack of concentration

Life is hard, and it’s has a lot of challenges would you rather spend time moving from one thing to another never mastering anything or focus and make what’s you chose your life. I have been approaching life and realized that’s you don’t need to be master of anything in life to be successful except master of people.

Mastering a certain one skill get your mind fixed on that’s one thing while if you delegate and pay talented people you can have a better life the problem with this you need to know what’s you are doing because this people will also rely on you, be credible and influential although this type of person needs to be like a jerk sometimes to get things done so be it ,you cannot be always soft if dealing with people. You only need to balance this behavior and family is not good in this environment unless they can easily adapt and really don’t take offense.

The time it’s take you to make decision on something is the different between winning and failing, there are times to think and if until the due date comes and you haven’t make up your mind you need to exercise your decision muscle and take risks and face the music, pivot and all cause not making a decision is a terrible decision. Bonus

The game is social

I have a tendency of not liking losing but I still have a bad habit of not weighing the situation before getting in. While you are trying to get things done on time you might rub other people the wrong way in that’s case don’t leave scares on your way to success and other’s will try to stop you on your way because it’s how things are done around here and you can potentially lose your place in that’s place.

Play it cool while you try to not lose efficiency on your own work, on the group work finish your potion on time or even single handedly get things done if the pack isn’t putting the work. This apply to even school work ,I experienced this when I was studying with my own money its became clear that’s if I don’t drive this people we are going to lose marks and when I was wrong at some point I had to pay people who came their bus fee if I didn’t make it.

On the other hand I was just one person stopping the whole project and i’m not bragging here but if I was there and the other person was absent the project would’ve continue and the absent guy suffer the consequences. In short make up for your missteps. We  have came to this part of the blog ,where I have to love you and leave you I wish to get someone who can narrate this for me on YouTube and get this type of information out there. LnM (ULwaz NO Makhula) that’s us on social media. Thank you for spending the time FOLLOW US for such grooming content.

How to protect yourself from bad habits

This advice is not something you don’t know I’m here to reinforce it. I have realize I no longer post as often since I started writing during the lockdown where I had all the time in the world so if you are seeing this from your email you are the reason I’m writing. You believed in my ideas and this habit of writing was one of the strategies to help myself avoid void and end up doing bad habits.

Do something if you have free time
I use to think my job was important but not worth it but up until I lost it and realized it better to work than not. Free time and having nothing to do on a day may lead you to doing negative things that’s doesn’t show itself as negative.

Here is a example the lunch at work is 30 minutes and you finish eating at 45 now the next 15 minutes either goes to ill debates or smoking.

Ever notice at work there is no much motivation around what’s ya’ll doing only paycheck is; imagine talking about your goals during lunch or how your work has changed your life?

That’s worth doing during your free time than gossiping or talking about TV series. The above statement is an example of small batch of free time, what’s about those who doesn’t work at all? For those who I happen to be one of them as of writing this blog what can you do to avoid doing ill?

Disclaimer I may be a little privilege and have a source of income every month on passive income ,passive income means after I receive the money I have nothing much to do which lead me to having this free time.

Now getting back to the point ,the something you can constantly doing is applying and looking for a job or trying different businesses like selling something on the street for starters while having a bigger picture on how you can spend your time.

Depending on where you live there are hard physical jobs and other handyman jobs you can take rather than sitting on a tuck shop and watch the sun take time from you.

Build habits that’s will propel you forward invest your time wisely and take your time choosing the right vehicles don’t be drifted by air and join and schemes that’s won’t last.

Listen to educational content and stay away from television
Your breakthrough in life will come from something you heard or saw and if you get your inspiration from television I doubt there’s something there for you to get you out of your predicament situation.

When you start the personal development route you will learn life contradictions and more and how hooked you may be, I think that’s where you will need to control your intake of this information with a grain of salt.
This might not resonate to you but keep reading as I have a great point at number 4. The summary of this second point is do the boring worth a while things rather than temporally entertaining things that’s won’t matter in your future.

Read books hard as it is but it’s doable on other hand hit a gym and try balancing these things.

When socializing be conscious on what’s you are talking about when you are talking to people and clearly distance yourself from friends that’s lead you to bad habits like drinking and maybe chase girls and unproductive debates about government and celebrities.

Help people
This is my strategy but I’m conscious on who imp helping but I suggest to you do this in real life not on social media that’s way it will be effective.

So last year when I reached what’s its seems to be my rock bottom ,I started helping my rich grandfather who doesn’t stay with me with one of his businesses without expecting anything on the other hand my aunt was building her house close by and I was the obvious choice for helping.

And last month my grandpa borrowed me 40k to get back in business and also my aunt trust me with her finances thus I can use that’s money and replace it every time.

You may not see who you can help but trust me there is a person who need something to get done, all you have to be is be trustworthy and be efficient and always speak the truth in good and bad times.

This may look like motivation and so on but it’s apply in every aspect of a person’s who value success.

I also know there are times where a person who is in great position and make business deals and have to give municipality side drink money, that’s not the case here that’s the corruption on the politicians end and business people are forced to align with this act, I’m sure there are bad business people as well but you don’t want to begin your journey of having a habit of paying bribes to get things done.

What’s causes bad habit
We cannot protect ourselves from something we don’t know how we find ourselves in. Although I said bad habit in the sub-title but I mean any habit for that’s matter but we are trying to fight the bad ones here.

Reading the atomic habit book they say habits are cause by certain cues meaning we do this which lead us to doing the next thing.

You went to buy bread in the morning and remember you have to buy cigarette as well.

The other way is the environment I am an example every time when I’m in my bedroom I crave pop corn because I associate it with the computer screen and anything I think of watching.

And to fight this negative habit’s we must remove the things that’s cause the cues ,like changing a shop and be vigilant most of all of this remove TV or the type of content that’s cause me to want pop corn.
With time on your hand find other tasks to do instead of those causing you to do the bad deeds.

Maybe you have a habit of cheating to your partner and it not something you have got grip off .You may need to work towards solving that’s bad habit like putting your babe on the profile display when you try to take the number of a side chick and you will remember the oath you did to yourself of not cheating.

Bad habit of forgetting people’s names, simply repeat it in your mind the moment they tell you rather miss few lines of what’s they say and ask them again then forgetting their names.

See your life meaningful
Maybe your life is straight forward and that’s not such a bad thing, but since you have people you admire in life the question is why can’t you be the one admired by others as well?

The meaning can be simply having talented kids who sees you as their manager or investor or try to partner with youth who are doing what’s you wished you have become and become a motivator and patch in the back for them and when they realize their goals you will be a important person in their lives and a role model to any one in that’s niche.

This point is simply to say find meaning of your existence other’s say a purpose ,and your life will be aligned and the bad habits will run away e.g. you are a soccer coach and you say no smoking in your team that’s obviously stop you from doing it as well.

You start a business and don’t think a business as a traditional thing of opening a stand outside and wait for people to come and buy, learn the internet and open a website thus your mind will be open to more things.

But if you will do it in the physical world the habit of sleeping in and opening your shop late may take you out before you even begun those bad habits are bad in business and at work.

Prove a point in a positive way, tell your friends you won’t get absent this year and bat on it or you won’t be late. This bat will motivate you and have you never snoozing your watch.

Without mentioning social media and internet habits I would haven’t be relevant so becareful on how much time you spent there because real life will be waiting for you ,check the cues that’s lead you to picking up a phone and dodge your work and put your livelihood in line.

Before I lost my job I wasdon’t already threatened by my boss that’s if I don’t stop using a phone im gone ,it’s was very hard stopping but I had to don’t find yourself in that’s terrible situation.

Thank you if you have read this far and you see other subject below don’t hesitate this information is worth binging. LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) follow us everywhere. I hope I will stop my bad habit of not writing more often.

How to decrease chances of catching Corona Virus

Welcome to another piece of the most popular subject of the moment Covid19. Disclaimer this is not a professional advice it’s a survival skill from an ordinary person for more in depth advice contact a doctor or a proven facts on the web. Here is a discipline and a new habit you need to cultivate to not be caught by this virus

Be paranoid and don’t mind looking stupid

You life is at stake you need to do what’s ever in order to survive until this hell hole we find in pass or can be contained.

Wear masks and face shield ,have your own little sanitizer for on the go situations especially if you like me and about to get to a work place where there has been numerous cases of this pandemic ,gloves should be your friend as well as your overall hygiene.

Wash regularly your clothes & hands even have a uniform remaining at work don’t take it home with you and maybe you can consider using a laundry if you can afford it.

Take medication before it’s seems necessary

This doesn’t mean drug yourself but already vitamins boosters tablets and so on are recommend.

Getting back to to Our popular qoute eat your food like medicine or you will end up eating your medicine like food , personally I don’t enjoy eating things like garlic and lemon that’s is being recommended but if that’s what’s its takes to prevent in advance than its a best call cause any medical inconvenience cause a serious distress.

The obvious keep away from crowded places

This may mean waiting for a month end craziness settle down. Or do your grossing earlier or use internet shopping and get things delivered on your doorstep.

Follow the laws in place putted by your government and professional doctors and stop sharing cigar and unnecessary hangouts.

Embrace technology and use it for good not just social media ,use your zoom and skype to conference and keep the work going increase your chances of being indoors until there’s is a cure or a proven system to get covid out of a person system and live normally again.

But even when that’s day come you should be able to live virus free by keeping the above good habits.

Don’t physically contact other people and keep a distance if you don’t have mask on

Kissing and hugging as well as shaking hand are already old way of showing love so don’t be stubborn and act foolish like anyone else.

You know at first I didn’t take this virus serious up until people I respect got affected business wise ,for starters I didn’t watch tv since 2018 January but lately I had to watch president speak cause his restrictions affected me in many ways.

But what’s I got clearly eirlier on was the fact that’s its all on me ,if I continue the old way I will get burnt so do you ,keep social distancing and conspiracy or not we will all be fools so don’t try to be a special case and think this doesn’t exist because you haven’t see live in action.

It’s time to enjoys and disable tension within your valuable relationships

This may look out of the subject but by seeing this chance as a way to bond with your family you will come out strong than trying to run away from them cause you are not use to be with them since job takes all your time.

Working from home has obviously shown another side of life that’s you were oblivious from or having your patner layed of make it seems like he/she wants your love more or they want to take out their stress on you.

But if you can look at it positively and enjoy the moment that’s can be quickly taken and give her/ him all the love with the time that’s just presented itself now you will thrive even in the future.


Seeing you housewife how she spends her day shouldn’t get to you cause what’s ever you see ,if she had to follow you at work all day you can be uneasy too so let it be and understand you choose this arrangement long time ago and minor inconveniences should derail both of you.

Well starting this blog ,like any other of my posts I rarely think I can make it to point number five as I almost gave up at 3 ,but I had to be focus and give you the best information I can.. With that’s said follow us as ULwaz No Makhula (LnM) everywhere online and for our local music lovers we have a new song out called #Kushi_Gqom ft Caleb ,Ntomby ,Nancy M and Magibela Produced by eRevo #Spliff_Entertainment

Practice good relationship with other people

With the world moving to automation people with have more time in their hands and the company we keep will matter more than ever, that’s why today we look at ways to practice good relationship with other people. It’s may be a family member a stranger or a colleague what’s ever it is you will learn something here and possibly some of it it’s just reinforcement of what’s you already know.

Do your parts in maintaining the relationship you value

I am a passionate learner and I try paying attention to a lot of things in my life and at the age I’m at I value relationships although its looks like it’s a spare of a moment thing and other people may think I’m on their case, that’s not the case at all I just value them knowing It or not.

I had an honor of buying my grandpa a birthday present this week last year I failed to do that’s because he had a huge party and I realized my gift won’t matter that’s much but this year no one was paying attention and me myself I pay attention to the fact that he values his birthday when he turned 69 years old and told me no one remembered his birthday and I felt bad and made a commitment to do something in his birthday since he is the elder male in the family and I’m lucky to be close to him since he became so successful in his lifetime.

This story is to make a point that’s the relationships you cultivates grows and fraction is bound to happen but how you come back from that’s makes the whole difference, this also means when you in an argument with an important person in your life or anyone for that’s matter you should think through your words carefully because they may last longer than your sorry.

My goal with this blogs is simple to have likeminded people following me and helping one another go through life with awareness and don’t be sidelined by our work and daily choirs ,blogs are small and straight to the point which makes it a great way to learn.

Avoid having people you bully

Although nature didn’t create us equally and we different in many ways from gender to age , geographical location and mental states its important that’s no one gets bullied as we grow we will lose people but our bad actions shouldn’t be the cause and the main problem you will do this in front of people that’s matter to you and they will change the view of you.

This point will tied close to your own people’s skills ,personally I consider myself bad with the opposite gender thus although I’m looking for a way to improve but I still try not to push it ,Those kind of relations I build them from the foundation of chemistry and if there’s none then I don’t approach that’s party. On the other hand if it’s strictly business or work I’m good working with them if it’s a working environment situation but on my own businesses I still find it hard to collaborate with them.

Last week since I’m involved in a music industry as a producer and an artist I needed a lady to do a photo shoot with and manage to get two unlucky I needed one so I had to stop the other lady.

 The lady took long to confirm and understandably I was just a stranger referred by a friend but it’s took some days to get an answer but that wasn’t the main issue, what’s happened next is, the lady that’s confirmed cancelled on me so I had to go back to the one I stopped two of them friends and to my surprise they rejected me and made a unrelated reason for not helping me.

They said you rejected us while you were the one needing people and they continue saying the world doesn’t revolves around us as artists, I was supposed to be considerate and think of them as their students they have classes so it a no.

 I thanked them and postponed the shoot and the issue here is that’s they might have had a point but they said more than necessary and if you disagree please comment below. So this another form of bullying we get from our fellow human beings and I have been on the watch on such behavior and my music company doesn’t have female artists and luckily no one has ever want to and I’m not looking.

Know your weakness when it’s comes to relations

The above is a conscious awareness of me and limitations, for 50 cent is his family he’s good at almost everything he does but terrible with keeping it’s cool with his family by certain extent and he’s aware and working on it. What about you maybe we men come across too violent or you find it hard to influence other people near you thus failing to build mutual respect with other people.

There is the book I’m reading crucial conversation is a perfect book you need to conquer your weaknesses, be alert to what’s beliefs your surroundings had installed in you to hate certain people in my culture is a normal thing for mother’s to fight the battles of their exes with a kid and the kid end up hating father maybe the father made things worse by pulling back maintenance support to the little child who has nothing to do with your fights.

 At this point I understood that’s as parents we should not prevent children’s from seeing our fights so they will learn from them and make the decision either they adopt the bad behavior or they tell themselves that’s they will never treat their partner like this or on the bright side if you start thinking of dodging the kids to the bedroom conclude not having this fight at all.

 I’m writing from other people’s experiences because I’m not yet married or anything like that’s but I have been once in a room with parents fighting and my kid shouldn’t go through the fear I did when that’s happens.

Be honest and tell the truth all the time and face the consequences

Truth always has consequences and for me it’s the route I had always took and repercussion dealt with ,It not an easy thing and you have to endure a lot of stress towards revealing a truth of what’s might happen. Face to face with other people around is a better place because is closing behind closed doors the reaction may be uncontrollable.

This apply to your work in Toyota they encourage a worker coming forward after doing a defect in a car in an assembly line other than hiding a defect with a potentially of killing the whole family on the freeway.

 Ever since I have started businesses none have had success that’s I can say this was a milestone reached it’s a lost after another although something I can live with but the regret of not trying would be much worse in my later life and this blog is a product of starting something and keep pushing and be true to myself that’s I don’t know when I will succeed here.

Have a heart ,know what’s the world needs to know and what’s not about your life for example you wouldn’t tell the world that’s you have a bad habit of masturbating if you did there must be a huge chance you don’t take yourself seriously and no one will ever do. I know my example is not a comfortable one but my point will also be family matters and dark side of it should be kept a family matters not face book.

Raise your standards and show how you want to be treated

When people attack you try to keep a low profile and don’t rise to their anger and that’s on its own will make them realize you don’t entertain noise you just want solutions and understanding.

 The standards reflects of the quality friends you keep and family treats you the way you present your goals and beliefs personally I don’t believe in what’s my elders believe in and thus they know how to treat me in certain situations. Respect is important and really thinks of other people when you go through certain big decisions because it will affect them one way or another.

You may drink but if you act like a drunk you will be treated as such, you may be a church goer but be sidelined by your bad deeds trust me the bad deeds will out shine your church going habits. Life is not black and white and I’m not saying I’m 100% right in all the bold statements I make but if you want to make good relationships you must be a reflection of what you is want. If you found some valuable insight on today’s piece let us know ,thanks for taking the time and drop your own advice if you are a blogger below on the comments and tell me how can I improve my weaknesses that’s that’s I mentioned above. This is LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) on all social media.

breakthroughs I had reading books

I always refer to books and encourage taking a look into them but you might wonder why haven’t I share anything that’s I read. Well my concern is giving you my wrong interpretation of the original author meaning but today is a risk worth taking because after this you are responsible to confirm my understanding.

Books may say one thing but to us come as something totally different and sometimes we miss the whole point of the writer and we focus on money making books only or novels that’s becomes a form of entertainment ,today we not going to go much into fiction and novels but business books and life books with personal development.
I want to make this point clear the goal in reading a book is not to pass or fail like school or know everything in it but one breakthroughs is enough ,one idea or insight
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  • From how to invest in real estate by Brandon tenor

This book is supposed to be focused on acquiring houses and all different types of real estates although they end up doing that’s but my breakthroughs came from the behavior lessons they teach first and good financial habits to become a great investor.

My first realisation was 80% percent of your income goes to 20% of expenses every month you need to figure what’s those is and try to consciously direct your funds ,cause at this moment they control you and you cannot take a bank loan without first learning to think critically and logical about your money rather than only relying on your feelings and social pressures.

We all know this is a pareto principle that’s was found by George Pareto in 1952 which states 80% of our efforts lead to 20% of our results and 20% of our efforts leads to 80% of our results the only thing we need to figure out is which 20% is more effective.

This application to all life happenings ,but what’s I found intriguing here was that’s I already knew about the principle but because the examples weren’t made about money I didn’t connect the dots up until this book did.

From crucial conversation*

This is a great book im still reading it too many lessons im going to get , already took something. This book is a research of years which has some human behaviour in it and encourage the necessary skills that’s builds emotional intelligence ,about 3 authors turned consultants wrote this one.

What’s I got we as people when we are in serious conversations with important people in our lives may be boss ,spouse ,parents and so on we tend to be in two modes of trying to solve the differences fight or flight mode ,winning or losing ,making him look bad and cover my ego and so on.

The authors state before talking back out of anger first ask yourself 3 questions 1. What’s do you want 2. What’s my motives especially that’s drives my blood to rush in the first place & 3. Can’t I have the same out come or third solution without making a noise out of ut.

They argue that’s there’s always a third option that’s we are blind to because our emotions and inability to think through our responses blinds us. Mastering this skills is a choice between having a successful meeting and be the only one standing up for the group and not annoy the boss in the process ,is putting in law’s in their place the moment you get merried and still retain their love for your new family. There’s a lot in this book and already something keeps sleeping through my mind.

The cash flow quadrant by Robert Kiyosaki and rich dad team

We all should know Robert Kiyosaki while taking his lessons with a grain of salt he’s all over the internet but this book he didn’t write alone there is a professional business people involved even from real estate but as of writing this the points I want to make seems to keep going back and forth.

With that’s said it’s important to take some notes when reading or listening to a book. This one taught me that’s there are 4 type of quadrants in Life ” E-employee ,S-Self-employed ,B-Business , I-Investor” and they all operate differently in life and their thoughts process and their lifestyle differ a lot and they encourage if people want financial freedom they should focus on B & I .

And made point like if you are an employee E ,you can finance a house for 15-30 years and call it an asset but what’s you don’t know is that’s it’s whose asset yours or a bank ,you got it right a bank because it’s pays the bank money from your salary every month and to you it’s a liability because it’s takes your money.

While if you are in B can make a profit from other people’s efforts from the system you have set up to buy a house in cash while it’s didn’t come as your burden .

You have to read this book because it’s easy to understand while the title make it look like a tough business book ,they touch on taxis as well that’s B- business pay less taxes because of their financial savvy and can always use the money that’s supposed to go to taxes to grow their businesses while S-self employed pay higher taxes then anyone because they don’t create jobs like B and make huge difference in a community and E pays taxes even before they recieve their paychecks from their bosses so already they don’t have control of their finances and lastly I -investing makes money with money and other finance vehicles like stocks ,real estate and mutual funds this one can pay less tax because other investments has high risks and high returns and there are average investors and sophisticated ones like mr Warren Buffet you should also beware of ponzi schemes and get rich quick in I ,.

Unscripted and Fastlane millionaire by Mj Demarco

This are 2 books by the same author you can skip millionaire fastlane if you are in a rush to riches and need tools now because unscripted touches most important aspect of millionaire fastlane.

MJ found his major success in tech space after being in real estate and firstly being a limousine driver here he ended up being a computer programmer making a program that’s made 100 thousands every month till its evaluation lead to millions of acquisitions and made MJ a multimillion and he retired at 30.

The first thing I like about Mj view of the world is unlike most people and the accepted beliefs in our society today he crushes them and from psychological perspective he tries to frees our minds for believing man made dogmas that’s ends up having our lives set up in a certain way.

Like monday to Friday and chill on the weekend for him everyday is the same no boring lazy monday and a crazy weekend ,all is in his control and balance hence he encourage like cashflow quadrant creating system that’s frees our time to do what’s ever we want and when ever we want and not having a boss telling us what’s to wear or which time to go.

In order to achieve this self discipline is vital ,understand the industry you want to generate income from its must have this 4 qualities ,1. Entry barrier – it’s should be a hard market to get into thus less unnecessary competition and wanna bees. 2. Control – if your business run through Facebook for example you are in risk of being out of business if facebook changes it’s algorithms ,that’s why Mj has his own website with like minded people and traffic that’s make him money. 3. Time – What’s you do you should do it once and be able to leave it and maintain it without it requires you to be there everytime ,internet based businesses most are like this now uber and more you buy a car someone else drives it and gives you money.

He hates the businesses that’s rely on too much people because of HR involvement and people have a way of making things complicated but yet encourage business a also a great tool to financial freedom. And Forth is Scale – What’s you set up should be able to scale and make millions because it’s reach millions or it should have a magnitude one sale can be a million e.g royce royce or Ferrari etc.

This is MJ last stand to the worlds ignorance of money because he say a person seeking a financial freedom needs to first have a

difference beliefs about money , and see money as equivalent of value he produces and provides and encourage people to be producers rather than consumers more. This is amazing books the value in them cannot be matched I will really recommend you take the time to read them.

Lastly I want to recommend different books for different reasons

I have a lot of books that’s im reading and have read and I feel like not doing justice if I list the last one rather I will give you names and titles :*Sa tue- The art of War this book taught me that’s ,if you say you going to do something do it or people won’t respect you and you will loose credibility and seem weak

* 48 Laws of power by Robert Green , I read this book as audio book and one of my earliest books it’s easy to understand but at the time I couldn’t apply it to my life but today its a different story.

*25 Laws of doing the impossible by Patrick Bed David ,I saw this guy on YouTube having a valuetainment channel and kept following him until he recommend his book since he was teaching about entrepreneurship he is such an inspiration and he made me see life and business differently.

* DR money guide by Dave Ramsey this book taught me a lot of things about money budgeting ,babysteps saving and most importantly negotiations and my mindset about failure and money.

* African Midwives I forgot the author is the first book In my life in 2017-18 this book literary changed my life and open up me to the world of reading ,its author is a mother it’s taught me more about life and helped me to be able to understand people and be open to then not judge them before I know them , also taught me to know the god role in my life I have been always been a religious person but because that’s what’s we did at home other than that’s I was still a normal person than this book tolds me let’s go and let god.


*How to win friends and influence people by Dell Carnegie ,I have never read a book twice but I owe it to this one its not a manipulative book its a skill everyone should have in order to live with other people productive and effective.

*Think and grow rich by Napoleon Hill this is a famous book it’s too big but I read it in my eary days and its was so fascinating , the thought are what’s make us or break us .

*Rich Dad poor dad by Robert kiyosaki * I read it earlier too and everyone has to its a no brainer the book is famous for a reason. *How to win in a sport of business Mark cuban it’s self explanatory but this billionaire is not doing numbers here he simply tells us how he made it starting from bottom up without loans and stuff , he says you only have to be right once to win big so failure is a normal thing here.

*Hustle Hard hustle smart by 50 cent this one showed me a lot of common things we have challenges with as people like our families are so close to our hearts they can be our downfall as well. *Elon must biography by Ashely vans , the inventor and business man elon must of this era who is still making big things taking us to space and building nice cars a must read.

*Ford biography , Hendry Ford whose a founder of a ford motor company worth millions to day ,his story is word listening to or reading. *Man search for a meaning by Dr Franklin , who was in 3 concentration camps and suffer the nazi oppression during the wars back theb a must read or listening he argues there’s always a meaning behind things that’s happens in our lives good or bad.

*Sepians by Yuvol noah harari , this is history of mankind where we come from till today how we have evolved and build this kind of society we are living in today , I haven’t read a book called homo dues which the author is said to be talking about the future ,a both must read in your lifetime.


*Negotiations without splitting a difference by Chris Voss ,best book on negotiations from a FBI hostage negotiator fun to read and quite humorous.

*Influence the psychology by Rorbet * I might not remember author surname but online you will find this book and others , this one touches our humanly born with triggers in our systems brains to comply and give in or not give in to situation ,reading this book will save you from a lot of psychological trick that’s can be played at you, from buying things you don’t like or need to not being easily manipulated .

The list is endless but im sure I have gave you the great start this mixture will do you good in your life , Novels I will recommend in their own blogs and possibly tv series that’s are educational Thanks for taking the time and reading such a long blog. LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) follow us every where .

Naivety is a real challenge to beginner entrepreneur

Don’t we all start somewhere ? That’s why we must check our limitations and work with or against them

LnM

 Having no mentor and really trying to make my business work. 1st thing you can never master easy is people, people are unpredictable and those people involve scammers, fake vendors and bad customers. We going to talk about things that’s will really give a young business person a problem starting out ,but I’m not saying give up remember we talked about anticipation ,that’s what I want you to do expect the unexpected.

Not mastering your number and winging it

This has hurt me so badly even now as we speak, I built rental rooms from the scratch just because I saw I have money decided to go to a hardware and get building material and buy a site. While first I was supposed to do my numbers well and plan accordingly but I was so aggressive and with that’s force I manage to overcome all the…

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