Why self discipline is so hard

Today’s article is inspired by my own procrastination ,its Friday today and my post is late by 3hrs .There is no excuses for not delivering in time it’s all based on the lack of myself discipline ,because I’m going through this right now I can easily see the challenges causing it.

  1. Laziness and excuse artists

Hard important things are not easy to do, the easy things to do you do them without thinking and the things that’s you have habit of doing comes easy. But new one’s like writing this blogs earlier on its easy and exciting but as I keep going enthusiasm get low and the only thing that’s can keep me of float is myself discipline.

Being lazy is common drag and waste time doing shinny things or things that’s won’t have any results. I have had time today to be in a place of physical work and its easy to see things that’s will make a huge impact there but one guy was busy cutting corners in a serious job you need to discipline yourself to avoid doing too much housekeeping and less productive work cause your supervisor will notice you and make sure you are the 1st to go when times are hard.

Excuses are the killer of self discipline that’s why they are negatively affective, if you don’t do something important and have a reason why you don’t do it then you are safe. But in reality you will be legging behind and excuses never shows up when it’s time to show some productivity and time keeps spinning.

So what’s you need to do every time you find a reason to do something, just do it or do nothing and see what’s will happen. Here is an example you have a task that’s you need to do and you are craving TV series rather than choosing the latter ,decide to do nothing if you get bored do the important task then after that’s it will open the window after you have finished it to actually enjoy the series.

2. Its require endurance and a goodwill

Watching a TV series produced by 50 cent called For Life, the starring shows a serious courage from being a convict to becoming a lawyer since he was arrested for the thing he didn’t do. He endured and disciplined himself to read hard law books and  started appealing to court and helping other inmates like him ,while he is trying to get the files of his own case and people behind this scandal haven’t give up and they suppress all his efforts but he doesn’t give up.

That’s discipline on steroids maybe there are no consequences of not doing what you supposes to do but trust me there are always those underneath but maybe it’s not like the above story where all odds seems to be against you.

Life on its own is hard add something that’s you suppose to do everyday then its way harder. Employers have to constantly motivate their workers to love and see value in their work and after few year add a little drip but worker still finds reason’s to strike and do all sorts of inefficiency they can get its end up being a habit that’s people needs pep talk and the problem starts when a person try to start his or her own business and have to motivate himself and his worker’s.

So self discipline is hard but the reason for that’s is we don’t know that there is such thing, our why’s are lame the strong one’s are through nature like having a kid now imagine hustling for your child and focusing on bettering his life and end up forgetting about yours and not knowing how your child will turn out is a real mystery that’s why the discipline should come from within and your north star be your better self.

3. Its needs giving up the good stuff

Delaying gratification is a normal thing for people who are successful and those who are going to be .It’s hard to not eat your favorite food so you can stay on shape, it’s hard to save more than 10% so you can achieve your financial goals earlier, it’s hard to maintain the relationship schedule to make your love life work on your busy life but that’s what’s you need to do to get all of the above right.

Person who is going to make it in what’s ever he or she is doing avoids distractions, also avoids shinny things and trends and most importantly don’t try to impress other people they know what’s their doing is more important to their lives than a friend opinion.

Showing up is what’s its takes to start going in a right direction, the physical work I’m talking about since I work for myself I have a tendency of showing up whenever I like but I do what’s I can when I get there, I can try to do more and wake up early but I believe in effectiveness and lie to myself that’s I’m using the 80/20 rule. I know I can come early and leave late and fool around all the time or just come at 10 and work hard for 3 hours then leave until I reach my target.

4. No one or few people practice it.

Worker’s constantly come late at work be different, at church no one likes to start a song be different, in class no one likes to give the teacher the answer be different, no one wants to play midfielder take that’s position and master it. In most cases you can be the opposite of what’s most people are doing and do what’s they hate and win in life that’s all it takes.

Don’t be scared of other people actually build a system for yourself to not be scared of people ,my uncle is better at this I know him he was a cop and people became his friends. He’s famous and can get along with anyone his discipline to master that’s skill and ability to make a small talk has became handy in his own life, he was an investigator and people were open to him a shared what’s they knew, maybe you may argue that’s he learnt this at police academy but I may respond the discipline to apply those tools is what’s important.

I learn the people’s skill by practicing it and once I move away from people for the long period of time I found myself beginning to be an introvert which is not a good trait for person who is ambitious like me.

5. The audience  put some pressure

I will start by saying show people you’re positive traits as soon as you can, you hard working ethics and more. Show that’s side of you so it won’t be like you are changing all of the sudden, or you will have spectator’s that’s won’t do you any good.

The remarks and gossips and who said what’s about you ,why you are working so hard and so on try to be in a space where this is not too much. You need it to guide you but if it all you get then you are bound to be stopped in your tracks. People you need are those who are engaged like you in something this are winner’s .ever since I started something most business people has gave me courage and great influence and positivity.

One said you charging too low ,other said I see you one day having a million rand and that’s really caught me off guard but it’s meant a lot and I’m positive I will get there and I’m working towards it so hard and the understanding I have is there are conventional ways of doing things and there are really business savvy ways all hard work but require self discipline.

Thanks for catching up with us, LnM we are nothing without you keep grooming yourself and win. I don’t consider myself a motivation talker or something like that’s .i am a practical person and sometimes when I give an advice people don’t take it because its requires self discipline like the other day my little brother who stays with my father said he wants’ 4k so he can trade  but he don’t have it.

I told him to save and skip his birthday celebration this year and on December forget about new clothes because all this require discipline he came back and suggested what’s if he sells his laptop?

I figure I don’t have to answer that it’s what’s app and nothing he can see anyway. So if you ask a person an advice be sure you really needs it and respect that person enough to argue and tell why this advice won’t work for you than going to look for another crazy plan and present it to him/ her. If you knew what’s you were going to do why bother other people?

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My experience so far dealing with people and what’s you can learn

It’s fairly hard to contemplate the fact that’s in order to win in life you need to learn to deal with people. Maybe I made a mistake leaving my business to someone else and only visit for important issues but all I know is the best decision I have ever done for myself. Today I had an incident and my people don’t understand that entrepreneurs or business people go through much hardship compare to what’s reach them in the bottom but that’s why their people and that’s why there are business people no disrespect though.

People wants attention

I have kept distance from people am serving and they can feel it, they don’t know why but I know if I’m not attached to them I can do my work properly and plan towards the future. The attention they need is real and necessary, I once left for a while and one night I came and find it was dark outside and no one is supposed to operate in darkness in 21st century so I fixed that’s. Today a big incident to them happened but to me it was nothing new bill was starting and they could wrap it around their heads it’s happened out of the blue. But for me as a business person I’m always ready to put out fire.

They hardly listen, especially if the agenda is theirs

As I was dealing with the situation I recently mentioned, my vise person later explained why the meeting was the way it was and why this people didn’t want to take responsibility. They misdirected me after the realization that’s I wasn’t hard on them, they didn’t study subtle signs from my opening speech that’s I’m not their enemy and I’m doing what’s best for them. As soon as I finished what’s I was saying they attacked the whole effort I was putting and I eventually felt bad and felt I missed my money.

Luckily my vice know this people very well and told me, they’re lying because they don’t want change. For the 1st time I saw sometimes being gentle backfire, it was my first time dealing with them and they already try to take advantage of me. They didn’t listen to my intro and they had their own agenda that’s they want to see come ahead and they succeeded but for few minutes until my vice lady told me what’s I didn’t know.

They never get satisfied

From the richest man in the world Mr. Jeff Bezos, he knew this earlier on that’s as a company that’s they should offer things to people before they realize they need it , that’s pure innovation because people will not settle for unchanging markets they move on with the hottest thing. This also apply to those people in a form of customers, workers or board the few individuals who can’t adapt to change or they don’t like something and they think you may just change the whole thing. If half of people have a same complain maybe that’s can be something to consider but one or two people are not enough. In my case above they all resist to the change, but it’s a necessary change and they know it, they just mad because it’s going to cost them. If I let it slide today then municipality will be on my case so they should understand and learn to live with it.

They want to be lead

Leadership is a position that’s will be always there, because people like to follow and be directed. I didn’t intentionally choose to lead some people but it’s I have been doing all my life or at least since grade 11 now I’m older and some people want me to do that’s job. There’s a thin line now, if you want my natural expertise you need to pay for it.

They constantly want pep talk and motivation if the is a vision, they want to feel their important. Today one of my dreams really came true but I just realize that’s now as I’m writing this, my dream is to address people on something important many people though. But I did  address them although I wasn’t effective because its felt like my 1st time and no preparations on my way there I was trying to figure what’s to say and I made a mistake and  talked 1st but I saw them kept quiet but I will get better.

You will never figure people 100%

People are easy to deal with but you as a person who might be in a position of power or you want to control the conversation and affection you need to strengthen yourself ,mindset and approach all the humility should be on you cause it’s very important to never forget that’s you are a person as well. Look for the books by dell Carnegie on how to win friend and influence people. As we as 25 laws of dealing with people by John Maxwell I don’t know if my title is right there but John Maxwell is your man.

Know sometimes you will miss the mark and you constantly need to practice dealing with people. Listen to them and know they’re your greatest assets in the most things you do. Love them and know they are like you after all.