This topic should be encouraged and be talked about more often, the reason I’m touching this is because growing up we should be able to control our impulses and deliberate on things. I don’t know how long I can push this subject so please help me out and comment as well.
You can avoid doing things that’s will cause you serious problem
If you are in a love relationship you can avoid, falling for other person by disciplining yourself to avoid any signs of chemistry between you and stranger’s. This is work and you should not take it lightly and your friends should respect your ways, but take charge of that’s situation and move away from that’s influence.
Rape is a buy product of lack of self control that’s why you should be of sound mind when you make decisions and actions. But don’t get this confused life is risky and you should be willing to take those risks that are needed to be taken to reach positive heights of life. But unnecessary risks of sleeping with a girl while she is saying no are a big mistake.
Emotional abuse is a huge tool that’s people use to manipulate people ,for a woman it’s a powerful to a partner to make him do what’s she wants’ and don’t mistake this for influence ,influence is made naturally and gain both parties emotional manipulation is one sided gain and its always backfire so if you are a lady using this negative techniques to get things done in your relationship control yourself earlier before you find yourself in a bad position of losing a good man because of your wrong deeds , you might not cheat or anything tangible but games of mind and always suspending and playing the detective type can be a problem in a long term relationship.
You can be good with money
We live in a money world and its takes a discipline and self controlled person to manage it properly and for me this is the skill I’m trying to master by all means to the point that’s at home I am a treasurer and for years I have been trustworthy and kept the books well all left is to multiply it. If you can think through your purchase and really factor the money going out and how much time to get it, you will be in your good control to buy needed things than wants, you will seek assets more than liabilities and as you grow and maybe become a business person in your life you will buy liabilities with the business tax money cause you will be controlling every aspects of your money life.
It’s a normal thing to hear people say live below your means, what’s I should emphasize to you is that’s doable and you can try it. Instead of spending your whole paycheck, spend at least 60% and save 40% this will be a good test of your self control and the strength of keep going and your ability to control your emotions and eager to buy stuff you don’t need and you will be able to stick to the budget.
Here is the example from myself, I earn 5000 a month and straight up R1200 goes to the savings, then R500 goes to my family as support as I still live at home and what’s left goes back to the business and I’m usually left with nothing or less than R300. But as people we are not the same other’s have cars and drink alcohol and have all sort of things but control means simplifying your life you should try to do that’s by all means and avoid having habits like drinking mess with your live below my means plan.
You can control your emotions
By keeping calm when you are angry doesn’t means you don’t know how to act on it and make noise like other people do. But that’s level of self control you have or you need if you blast when you mad at someone. The breath in and out technique or moving away from the individual trying to test you can work and keep you out of jail and doing something you can regret.
If we can let our emotion get over us people will be showing streams of tears everyday but somehow we have mastered that’s part as we grow but still deep down we hurt. So what’s do you do when unfortunate thing happens to you? Well firstly I can say let the process of sleepless night and thinking over and over take place then move yourself from that’s situation especially if your body is still intact.
As days goes healing will take place but don’t give in to giving up and blame and so on just have a view of who I wanted this to happen to except me? Or what’s this lesson has for me and so on ,yet you are hurting and you’ve lost and schemed by that’s life and if you expect the good only in its you won’t do anything meaningful in life and you don’t want to be in that’s position.
You will have courage and confidence in yourself
You see in closing having a cell phone free at home that’s no call might mess with your other half is a real peace of mind. The courage part is knowing that’s you can handle everything coming your way because you are aware and mindful of everything that’s happening around you. For me my weakness is really feel if a lady embarrass me or rejection in general but I have grown to deal with it cause I’ve been applying the sales man skills, the courage to approach still in that’s state of expecting anything and knowing I can handle my embarrassment is what’s has kept me going, in both selling and approaching.
Moving on untouched territory needs focus and really a player mindset, so say for the 1st time you are buying a big purchase say a car what’s will you do? here what’s I will do because its minimizes risks, I will go with my uncle who has bought two cars and tell him to help me with most things except negotiations because that’s part should be mine and I will be paying unless he is a better negotiator, the courage here is knowing that’s you not good at anything and get help.
It will be a general skill that’s will do you good
I have a tendency of telling people I know that’s I read books so the knowledge I usually share has a reference, I hardly have my own opinions my this information I read has turn out to be mine because I use it and its doing wonder’s for me and I happen to have a positive attitude and high self esteem and you can put me with anyone we can connect.
I wasn’t always like this it started in 2018 January when I follow certain channels in YouTube and its introduced me to business and books ,and last week in YouTube I found the contracting videos that’s is against too much personal development and there and there I had to try and balance the whole thing and avoid scammers and fake gurus , while realizing that’s they may be fake guru but if you believe in their information and apply it its works and books may do the work so I won’t stop but balance real life and studying and doing .
Back to the subtitle the general skill is ability to engage with people ,introvert is not a good character traits you might miss opportunities and if you are an open person and end up hanging with everyone who will do you no good then you will have a problem. If you control yourself you will know when to speak and know when to shut up , know the timing and really avoid what’s I use to do with ladies ,I wasn’t considerate if a girl disappear the whole day on the phone I’m starting to suspect ,so instead I should’ve gave those ladies the benefit of the doubt and let them live their lives and come back to me when they miss me to the point that the relationship is that’s serious.
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