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Let’s talk ababout it ,we spend our lives on the internet but wealth is not shared reasonably . We might not built this platforms , reddit ,Facebook ,itunes ,tidal ,instagram ,tiktok ,Twitter ,playstore ,amazon andhas more this platforms has been a life changer for most of us.
Problem after you are in Return on Time is not equivalent and you need to be already having money to keep up with the likes of Youtube stars and Celebrities.
I believe Americas Platforms like Itunes ,playstores and more are good but not for us as African artists. Mina ngrepha ngeszulu and no matter how global I wanna become im still serving Zulu community.
Now its comes back to get my royalties as sales , artists lie to be getting that’s money especially underground ones. Aggregaters are in business taking that’s R300 upfront , my point is the value of digital distribution online is still doesn’t match it’s costs for artists.
Going to platforms like slikouron and fakaza and more free platforms its the same thing. Basically every artist should own his or her own website and drive his own traffic ,it’s stupid for us rappers and djs to delay this ,sikwenza konke except iwebsite.
I know this other free and itunes platforms has audiance already but you & I should put one or two songs there and lets people who loves us follow us out of there…this was meant to be a Facebook post but hey now I have my own Facebook which is this blog and website the more I grow this the better.
Maybe wordpress will not promote this article but if they don’t sort out the stripe problem of not reaching out of USA ,they gonna suffer a bit because its bad creating content only for them to benefit your traffic doesn’t pay you earlier on.
Almost all the internet platforms has some kind of unnecessary limitations and lack of incentives and as a business person this pisses me off and as a customer too. Someone might clearly do a better job. I think Landr mastering is doing a great job ,postmywall is doing a great job as well as fiver this people didn’t sponser me I just resonate with whats they do.
This article is for thought provoking ,thanks for reading and take notes you might be a kid out there about to study computer science or programming and you want to make money and see that’s you have been using Facebook for years and nothing to show for it ,what if I build something if the content is great its go viral people get paid or the information you share is really impactful its appear to the right people who can make it mainstream.
This website is meant to bebe a big media to make anyone involved betteroff ,if you put content here and we get paid on the other side you should get paid too. LnM @lnmshow ulwaz no makhula
It’s fairly hard to contemplate the fact that’s in order to win in life you need to learn to deal with people. Maybe I made a mistake leaving my business to someone else and only visit for important issues but all I know is the best decision I have ever done for myself. Today I had an incident and my people don’t understand that entrepreneurs or business people go through much hardship compare to what’s reach them in the bottom but that’s why their people and that’s why there are business people no disrespect though.
People wants attention
I have kept distance from people am serving and they can feel it, they don’t know why but I know if I’m not attached to them I can do my work properly and plan towards the future. The attention they need is real and necessary, I once left for a while and one night I came and find it was dark outside and no one is supposed to operate in darkness in 21st century so I fixed that’s. Today a big incident to them happened but to me it was nothing new bill was starting and they could wrap it around their heads it’s happened out of the blue. But for me as a business person I’m always ready to put out fire.
They hardly listen, especially if the agenda is theirs
As I was dealing with the situation I recently mentioned, my vise person later explained why the meeting was the way it was and why this people didn’t want to take responsibility. They misdirected me after the realization that’s I wasn’t hard on them, they didn’t study subtle signs from my opening speech that’s I’m not their enemy and I’m doing what’s best for them. As soon as I finished what’s I was saying they attacked the whole effort I was putting and I eventually felt bad and felt I missed my money.
Luckily my vice know this people very well and told me, they’re lying because they don’t want change. For the 1st time I saw sometimes being gentle backfire, it was my first time dealing with them and they already try to take advantage of me. They didn’t listen to my intro and they had their own agenda that’s they want to see come ahead and they succeeded but for few minutes until my vice lady told me what’s I didn’t know.
They never get satisfied
From the richest man in the world Mr. Jeff Bezos, he knew this earlier on that’s as a company that’s they should offer things to people before they realize they need it , that’s pure innovation because people will not settle for unchanging markets they move on with the hottest thing. This also apply to those people in a form of customers, workers or board the few individuals who can’t adapt to change or they don’t like something and they think you may just change the whole thing. If half of people have a same complain maybe that’s can be something to consider but one or two people are not enough. In my case above they all resist to the change, but it’s a necessary change and they know it, they just mad because it’s going to cost them. If I let it slide today then municipality will be on my case so they should understand and learn to live with it.
They want to be lead
Leadership is a position that’s will be always there, because people like to follow and be directed. I didn’t intentionally choose to lead some people but it’s I have been doing all my life or at least since grade 11 now I’m older and some people want me to do that’s job. There’s a thin line now, if you want my natural expertise you need to pay for it.
They constantly want pep talk and motivation if the is a vision, they want to feel their important. Today one of my dreams really came true but I just realize that’s now as I’m writing this, my dream is to address people on something important many people though. But I did address them although I wasn’t effective because its felt like my 1st time and no preparations on my way there I was trying to figure what’s to say and I made a mistake and talked 1st but I saw them kept quiet but I will get better.
You will never figure people 100%
People are easy to deal with but you as a person who might be in a position of power or you want to control the conversation and affection you need to strengthen yourself ,mindset and approach all the humility should be on you cause it’s very important to never forget that’s you are a person as well. Look for the books by dell Carnegie on how to win friend and influence people. As we as 25 laws of dealing with people by John Maxwell I don’t know if my title is right there but John Maxwell is your man.
Know sometimes you will miss the mark and you constantly need to practice dealing with people. Listen to them and know they’re your greatest assets in the most things you do. Love them and know they are like you after all.
Hi welcome back to LnM, and to this juicy attractive title. This might help some other’s will dismiss it and continue with their old ways that’s doesn’t work. Some of the tips I share here are quoted in Alux.com YouTube video “What’s woman look for in a man , and vice versa” So if you get sometime go watch that’s it’s going to open your mind .Also Valuetainment on the topic , how to marry and who to marry. But due to demographics situations may differ so for me in South Africa I will be able to really touch on all the reasons why relationship fails that’s happens here in Africa.
- Because we don’t study from people who has successful relationships
Failing to study about this, as individuals makes us put our new partners in a hard situation. In everything you do, you need its working mindset that’s can be finance, parenting, work and so on .for you to differ from the rest you must teach yourself.
The council about relationship, shouldn’t come from your player friend, unless you want to be a player as well. And personally I have met ladies and try to date them and show them my intentions earlier because I don’t want to play and waste my time.
For a moment they understand and for some reason’s its seems like all that’s effort is a wrong move and it’s overwhelm them but until I find someone who will get what’s I’m saying I won’t anybody’s time as well as mine. You don’t get it, I politely let you go before we do something we both regrets. Failure to get advice from people who has been dating for 6 months to a year or 3 years, is a sure sign that’s you both will wing it until your relationship dies an early dearth. Then when you are ready to get married, see a pastor or anyone who has been married for a long time.
2. Because we don’t understand what’s love is
I want to be clear,I’m not saying what’s will happen in your new relationship that’s purely up to you and your partner. I’m mentioning the obvious trends that’s usually make relationships fail, other fail before they even begun and I have that’s experience firsthand. Because I am a continua’s learner I tend to know about life then my partner’s and to be honest I have my negative flaws as well but I’m working on them.
Getting back to the point ,not knowing what’s love is , I think is the number 1 problem young and old people who just started dating have. Maybe you have a different way to define love but I will make an example we will all understand. At home my mother has never once said, she loves me but I know she do then the question be how would you know your partner loves you with him/her uttering those words? The answer of real love is there. Love is a verb and verb is a doing word.
My understanding of love is you show it by doing things a lover do to the people they love. If you tell me you love me and leave me like that’s, you don’t really love me. I know others are thinking sex or being with a person in person this will differ to a gender but ladies are not impressed by sex only or mostly they want affection according to the reverend I was listening to yesterday, show them love and bond with them. Then us guys we do love making love, respect and for me personally a simple consideration on your day and how you go about things but I will expand later.
3. We date a person for wrong reason’s
I think anyone reading this subtitle can relate,it can be quite challenging having the kind of woman in our society who values material things but that’s can be a reality that’s should inspire us as man to better ourselves. On the other hand things attracts weak girls so, we shouldn’t take it to heart all of the above can make a relationship fail.
Dating for convenience is an existential suicide because what’s ever made you fall in love will always be a reminder for one another for example I found him unemployed and I was there for him till he got a job, so he can’t leave me. 1st of all if that’s was your reason to date him in the first place then that’s was a wrong reason because now you make it’s like you won a jackpot.
To us guys as well dating a person because , she can cook ,clean and wash while we chilling at a sofa is a terrible strategy that’s was used by other great grand ancestors. Today a woman who respects you and self-sufficient who you guys meets half way is a 21st century kind of woman you should aim for.
Dating someone because you lonely is also a bad move be rational a bit when getting in a relationship although feelings will take place but acting on them all the time is counterintuitive. By my standards I approached based on chemistry but I cannot always act on that’s because its might happen even if I’m in a happy relationship. Like today its happened but I couldn’t act maybe it was fear as well or place we were at but you get the point.
4 We don’t know what’s makes a good partner
It’s hard to measure a person’s mindset but that’s all there is in a good partner the way he / she thinks and looks at things. Way of talking, dealing with problems some people don’t talk or work through thing they let them pile up until someone can’t handle it anymore. Issues needs attention a good partner don’t lets things slide at the same time let you boyfriend or girlfriend have a life without you.
You don’t have to tag along all the time. Trust and be trusted and don’t do doggy things be upfront all the time and think through your words first especially if you cannot delete the message immediately on whatsapp like other partners do. I have made a rule once I have send a whatsapp I won’t delete it, I rather refrain myself because we are left curious and assume after the person has done that’s. Important person to your life should do that’s.
5. Some are not dating but just browsing
Browsing is a first step to finding a right partner and I want to indicate a mistake I have done and learn later was looking a partner just like me. I want to tell you there’s none , so reading all this just bear in mind the perfect some boys you picture won’t be yours and for a good reasons. You won’t be compatible from a person who has once dated his crush they turn out to be people after all and they have everyday problems and can stress you like every partner you meet. So bear your partner uniqueness and work with it.
Back to the point, rather be single and try to figure yourself out. If you was a problem in a previous relationship, chances you will be the same in the next one so change. I have saw people who started by being players and want to settle down, while cheating to their fiancés, it’s never ends well.
If someone is my fiancé she has a right to take any measures to make our relationship work ,so if she put spy on me say a neighbor girl ,that’s ok because that’s girl should produce a proof if not then it’s a word against hers ,but what’s if that’s is done and you are clean? That’s what’s you should aim for as a man or a woman but what’s if that’s person does the spying thing out of insecurities that’s maybe he/she is the one who is cheating? I want to encourage you don’t worry about it, this things has a funny way of showing up try to leave your life stress freely.
Because if the relationship is old or new there is always that’s what’s if, I want you to drop that’s baggage right now and set your mind free. Cause the stress will eat you alive. If your partner is still wine taste while you there and don’t seem to get better ,call it quit or do what’s will be best for you. Don’t look what’s you might be leaving behind, if it was yours you was not going to fight for it.
6. Because other’s are still hold on to old relationship’s
Usually making examples about myself, can make things clear for other. My longest relationship was 3years and you don’t just get over that’s overnight. That’s why as a person being single sometimes is not a curse but not for way too long. As you dealing with old wounds and so on, then later decide if you have healed to let someone new in your relationship.
I will suggest what’s was suggested to me and made sense , in relationship or business there are things we can never do as individuals and we cannot to it to other’s and you don’t want them to be done to you. They call it 3 non-negotiable .1st day you meet your partner he/she must know if you do this it’s over no questions asked. So maybe you want to leave me and you don’t know how to tell me, cool do one of this things.
You may know this from your previous partner or from other people. Say cheating, drinking alcohol for example. Mine was and still is alcohol, because it’s easy to lose all kinds of virtues once you go that’s path. Maybe other can handle themselves after few drinks but I still don’t recommend it in my relationships, even in friendships this is not good because your friend can change a bit at this point.
You might still be in contact with your ex because of a kid, this might still be a problem in your new relationship .So one of the guy I know simply gave the new potential wife that’s role to deal with his ex for the kid sake and its working well. They don’t meet or talk at all. So figure out your own system so you will not be forced to be hold on to the past.
Has come to an end of today’s insights ,sharing my views doesn’t means you have all tools now to deal with your relationship keep learning from others as well and the most important thing you can have in a relationship is humility and listening skill. Pay attention to things your partner repeats to you, I don’t like this and that’s. And the point is should’ve added is friends influence , once you start a relationship I can recommend not taking advices from friends especially singles ones ,or those who seems to fail to keep a relationship going. Why is that’s they have the most influence on you, I saw a woman’s who cheated and she was about to get married we may never know the whole story but friend is there.
This blog is based on good working friendship by ULwaz No Makhula , friendship is good and it’s important for other people but if you haven’t built that’s brotherhood/ sisterhood friendship really try not to consider their advices. If I’m not in a relationship it’s hard for me to give advices, but I can sympathize with my friend and try to put him/ her on the line by words if I can. Thanks for reading , I would like to hear your views and points you might add below , I want to learn from you as well.