My experience so far dealing with people and what’s you can learn

It’s fairly hard to contemplate the fact that’s in order to win in life you need to learn to deal with people. Maybe I made a mistake leaving my business to someone else and only visit for important issues but all I know is the best decision I have ever done for myself. Today I had an incident and my people don’t understand that entrepreneurs or business people go through much hardship compare to what’s reach them in the bottom but that’s why their people and that’s why there are business people no disrespect though.

People wants attention

I have kept distance from people am serving and they can feel it, they don’t know why but I know if I’m not attached to them I can do my work properly and plan towards the future. The attention they need is real and necessary, I once left for a while and one night I came and find it was dark outside and no one is supposed to operate in darkness in 21st century so I fixed that’s. Today a big incident to them happened but to me it was nothing new bill was starting and they could wrap it around their heads it’s happened out of the blue. But for me as a business person I’m always ready to put out fire.

They hardly listen, especially if the agenda is theirs

As I was dealing with the situation I recently mentioned, my vise person later explained why the meeting was the way it was and why this people didn’t want to take responsibility. They misdirected me after the realization that’s I wasn’t hard on them, they didn’t study subtle signs from my opening speech that’s I’m not their enemy and I’m doing what’s best for them. As soon as I finished what’s I was saying they attacked the whole effort I was putting and I eventually felt bad and felt I missed my money.

Luckily my vice know this people very well and told me, they’re lying because they don’t want change. For the 1st time I saw sometimes being gentle backfire, it was my first time dealing with them and they already try to take advantage of me. They didn’t listen to my intro and they had their own agenda that’s they want to see come ahead and they succeeded but for few minutes until my vice lady told me what’s I didn’t know.

They never get satisfied

From the richest man in the world Mr. Jeff Bezos, he knew this earlier on that’s as a company that’s they should offer things to people before they realize they need it , that’s pure innovation because people will not settle for unchanging markets they move on with the hottest thing. This also apply to those people in a form of customers, workers or board the few individuals who can’t adapt to change or they don’t like something and they think you may just change the whole thing. If half of people have a same complain maybe that’s can be something to consider but one or two people are not enough. In my case above they all resist to the change, but it’s a necessary change and they know it, they just mad because it’s going to cost them. If I let it slide today then municipality will be on my case so they should understand and learn to live with it.

They want to be lead

Leadership is a position that’s will be always there, because people like to follow and be directed. I didn’t intentionally choose to lead some people but it’s I have been doing all my life or at least since grade 11 now I’m older and some people want me to do that’s job. There’s a thin line now, if you want my natural expertise you need to pay for it.

They constantly want pep talk and motivation if the is a vision, they want to feel their important. Today one of my dreams really came true but I just realize that’s now as I’m writing this, my dream is to address people on something important many people though. But I did  address them although I wasn’t effective because its felt like my 1st time and no preparations on my way there I was trying to figure what’s to say and I made a mistake and  talked 1st but I saw them kept quiet but I will get better.

You will never figure people 100%

People are easy to deal with but you as a person who might be in a position of power or you want to control the conversation and affection you need to strengthen yourself ,mindset and approach all the humility should be on you cause it’s very important to never forget that’s you are a person as well. Look for the books by dell Carnegie on how to win friend and influence people. As we as 25 laws of dealing with people by John Maxwell I don’t know if my title is right there but John Maxwell is your man.

Know sometimes you will miss the mark and you constantly need to practice dealing with people. Listen to them and know they’re your greatest assets in the most things you do. Love them and know they are like you after all.

5 Key ways to get / acquire information

I think this will be the one of the important subjects to cover since this week we release our 1st book. It was crucial for us to release it because we didn’t want to answer same questions over and over. We live in technological era where the computer and phones technologies are so powerful and efficient but still some people still don’t know how to acquire information that’s they need. The word research might frighten you but it should , for us is basically looking for information we need , nothing more nothing less so today we want to share how we do it.

  1. We make use of Google and YouTube

Here how we use this tools, instead of knowing, how to search movies, music and TV series that’s we can entertain ourselves with we prefer looking for insight that’s we can grow our soft skills (Reading, writing and thinking) and mind with. This is a music artists blog but we going to be broad a bit in our topics because we see most people relate and can apply what’s we share in their niche so we don’t want to keep ourselves in the box and at the same time we not trying to push you away.

So Google its simple if you have connection data on your network provider you can get in a browser app and search for everything you want by starting your sentences like How to? , Who is or was which is and then put your full question. Look at all the answers and choose wisely and try to not get destructed by ads, take what’s you need and get out. Websites like Qoura and Pinterest usually pop up because their information sites and people have already answered your questions so those should be a obvious go to or Blogs like this one have the information you need. YouTube usually pop up there as well but if its something you want to learn practically or you want someone to explain to you, you can go directly to YouTube and ask on their search the subject you want.

  • 2 Read a book on it.

Sometimes a quick Google search is not enough for the topic you want to learn that’s why we suggest a book. So this is hard for us in South Africa reading a book or books but this has to stop because our country is behind on everything in the world because this basic skill is not yet mastered by a large number of populations. The only way to falling love with reading is starting by reading articles about interesting subject like money then your curiosity may lead you to taking a book .or read about the topic of your choice that’s where you will find everything for that’s time being you can use to win in that’s area of your life. As a music artist you can read biography of Michael Jackson or 2pac I promise you there is lessons there or read 50th of Law by 50cent and Robert Green. I have another option which is Audio books and they’re my hacks you may think I have read so many book while actually I download audios and replay them they are same as paper books in format but it’s a person reading for you only thing you need is a space to listen.

2020 release
  • 3 Do what you want to learn and fail or luckily be good right away.

Today’s article maybe something we already know, but we want to reinforce to you do them, if you are doing them you are in the write path. This point is about figure something out by actually doing it .Now go and do it…

  • 4 Don’t be lazy about it

The best thing you can do for yourself is acquiring data, I know we spend a lot of time on whatsapp, watching each other’s status and we have nothing of substance going in our lives and we need to wake up and figure out what’s we can do with all the time we are wasting and now we helping you get information 1st about money how to make it ,how to keep it and how to grow it. We think it’s everybody’s responsibility to take care of their financial education because schools didn’t teach it not it’s a lock down get down to your numbers and really know how much is in your account and where you putting it in general, are you spending or investing .Lets start a habit of saving money. Then move to relationships, study love relationships and other form of relationships so that’s you won’t cause your friend or partner stress when drifting through life by not being a competent lover. And be open minded ,your spouse may suggests saving or sending kids to private school always give things a thoughts before deciding ,don’t say we didn’t grew up like this or your partner is living life by a book there is no such thing , you just being lazy to grow and take those responsibilities. Pay attention and learn from everything good or bad, especially bad.

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  • 5 Get info from your past mistakes

It’s a hard one but you have to have some balance, see when you hire people to do some work for you once others take the money they don’t finish the work, so what’s must you do? Pay them half and pay them more lately. The problem with this people are not the same and as important to do contracts and have deals in place dealing with money where I’m from we seems to have no time for that’s .I don’t have a solution for you yet either we have to do the search and figure this out or its will hurt us constantly .But the rule of thumb is finish your job and get paid.

The challenge and skill other contractors use now is very hand bending, they give you a invoice you pay then they do the service for you with a due date as well. You should look into that’s as well.

Thanks for checking out today’s article, its cant be always be about music, although we are musicians but we are human beings and that’s why this topic was important, share to anyone who might need it.

Deejay Swing at work