How to position yourself for success

The thoughts you cultivate and the action’s you take with your time are most that’s matter (green links will lead you to related topics)

That’s all said than done, so I have to elaborate based on my lifestyle and people I have observed around the world the positive influencers and more. Success is different thing to different people like happiness we translate it differently but for this audience I want us to focus on success of having money being liquid and investing as well as ability to do what’s matter with your life and find meaning in it and maybe really enjoy it.

  1. What’s you think about most of the time.

Other like me years ago we don’t consider what’s exactly consume our minds, but I can assure you what’s consume our minds are what’s we read, watch and listen to and most importantly what’s we do. So to position you to success with little effort is to change the above things that are goes to your awareness and mind.

Dtox the producer who taught me the most about music was the one I listen to most of my 20s, I visited his studio and hang out even if there was nothing I needed, id go and chill because he is a little bit older than me everything he said as a friend was true and I didn’t argue at all.

That’s way I positioned myself to be a great music producer but it was not that’s easy I was luckily to have avoided his not good habits and without knowing it I only took what’s matter and leaved the ones that’s didn’t make sense to me. You might not be so lucky and friends feed you everything that’s you don’t have time to surf.

The most effective way I might be forgetting as influencing your mind is what you say ,when you talk to people the beliefs you share shows what’s goes on in your mind and the more you say it the more you reinforce it to your life ,no matter if it good or bad

2. What’s actions you automatically take (Habits)

Thoughts are things and that’s cannot be far from the truth, but other thoughts are nothing until you act on them those are the like of ideas, wishes, hopes and desires all of this requires a will to act on it and manifest it. It’s always recommended you do things everyday to transform them to habits and do them without thinking. But if all you do is think and chill then nothing will matter.

My example is I started music out of passion but I ended up needing to push myself to make beats and write songs and then later I ended up doing this effortlessly ,now this writing is hard sometimes but I have to keep doing it so I will go through dip and plateau and come out the other habit side.

If you’re automatic action is smoking and drinking then you will be stuck on those bad habits. If you change roads to your direction every time, you will miss the chance to be in one position where success will find you mastering.

3. Your beliefs and usage of your income

There is a saying that’s says to see what’s other person value look at where he spends his time and money. For now let’s focus on money, today I learnt or have something reinforced to me that’s formula ISS (invest, Save and Spend) this is a way to position yourself for financial success.

Lot to consider about the above statement like saying you are investing while maybe you are gambling or saying this is worth your time while it’s just a hobby it won’t have returns necessary for you to be able to invest.

Choose one thing and stick to it as your investment, when times get hard look at it objectively not emotionally and see where the problem is and try again and again.

Losing money is part of a business so as making it ,but if you don’t have a business or investments losing money might means being careless with it or you like to spend more than saving and investing so success is not possible in that’s case you got to change.

4.The app’s you use

In this day and age the writings should go with times and we cannot avoid the fact that’s other people spend more time on app’s than anything they do in their lives. Whatsapp ,Face book ,Twitter ,Reedit ,LinkedIn ,Google ,YouTube ,Qoura ,Vlc & other media players , games , websites ,Word press, pdf books and many more.

Since most of us have phones and it’s has been a source of income for most people as well and they do businesses in it. But other apps are pure bad waste of time and a sure way to position you for failure. I don’t want to tell you which are bad ones and which are good ones cause that’s is different for many people but like Mr. Robert Kiyosaki say Assets are what’s put money into your pocket and Liability takes money out of your pocket, games and in-purchase live in it take money and time in your life it doesn’t seem like a good thing especially when you are an adult.

 For parents this can work well in your favor by controlling game usage in your house you can use it as a reward to your kids after they have done something positive within the day, that’s be reading a personal development book, watching a how to video and actually seeing your kid acting on an idea maybe that’s might mean no games at all just pure fun in work and talent.

There are apps that’s are really good for your productivity ,like the to-do list app and screen time recorder to keep tap of how many hours you are using on your phone.

There is nothing wrong with using a phone but for me and other people alike there should be positive returns as money or value added into our lives. You might say you are a trader and you use a trader app all the time but if you cannot separate it from your real life than there must be a problem.

Same as saying you are pushing on face book maybe your brand but you are busy destructed and find yourself engage in people’s posts that’s has nothing to do with why you are there.

5. Morning rituals

This message of morning tasks has come to me in different ways. Do your beds first thing every day so you will create habit out of it, take a bath too or read a chapter or so before getting out of bed of a biography or a good book. Wake up at the same time every day.

All this are good advices I also have found that’s having the tasks being planed the night before is more effective and your day has a 60%- 90% to being successful so I also write things I need to do maybe one thing in details and in the morning before my mind give me reason’s not to do the task I move so fast and get it done.

This might be hard for most people who over think things and that’s okay I have aspects of my life where taking things slow is better like the process of buying a big purchase like a house or a car or anything that’s require thousands of cash I try to show concern but yet not rush about it.

But when it comes to doing those tasks get them out of my way I move fast unless if I’m making a point to other party whoever it may be. I don’t give in to procrastination here is why you shouldn’t as well when a planning a task there are unforeseen consequences that’s may lead you to finishing the task the following day and if you already delayed the process of starting then this task will end up taking 3 days, where first day you busy wasting time thinking about it and second day starting it and be stopped because of a materiel shortage or anything and third day where you finish the job.

Today I learnt that’s what’s you start with you do well, this really made sense to me because look at today’s article it’s the first thing I did and I’m sure there is a lot of value in it. Now imagine I wrote this later in a day the results may have been not so good but you wouldn’t notice.

For this information to work in your life you need to find your own truth in it. Oppose all you like I’m not a super Google kind of person I have flaws as well I’m just sharing my realizations and what’s had work best for me and the lesson’s I have found worth sharing.

Be so smart that’s you read the BS in this article and dismiss it ,my goal is to have you hooked in our content that’s its changes your life to the point that’s you recommend us to some of your friends instead of trying to explain all of this to them. It’s better to lead a cow to drink water then holding it head with that’s said we are not cow’s we are people thanks for spending time with us.

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Information hidden in a plain sight

Please read the rest of this article and see how effective it is, and don’t pounder much on the part you don’t understand too.

This will be mostly advice about the approach I would take if I was starting music as a 20k generation or maybe you are old and you are just starting out. Please I may need to disclaimer ,be advised don’t stick with one method of doing things reinvent yourself and try to live 1000 lives while you are one person. Here is the number of the things I have done through my life time.

 I started by being a little boy ,mama’s boy like most of us then as I grew losing parents I started music and at school I wasn’t bad either ,within music I became a producer ,event organizer ,artist and a brand who has his own clothing line. I moved to township real estate and owns two rental complex now I’m into blogs and podcast and also looking towards YouTube as well so you can call that’s media company.

But all this is not enough at home I’m a financial manager if you want your money to be secured and trustworthy I’m your man ,I won’t double it or anything like that’s but you can achieve your financial goals if I can manage your finances just saying I don’t need any clients I assist at home.

Key Books have all the 1000s lives I need because I become part of what’s ever I’m reading at that’s time and I can tell you how Hendry ford lived his life like I was there and I know and apply lot of things that’s other people are ignorant at. So I became a passionate reader and personal development and developed the skill of self motivation and it’s helped me keep going when times are tough.

You and I need to learn to use internet to influence other people to think alike and build that’s trust ,than the base will be broad and in life you will have brothers and sisters that’s will die for you because of valuable you have become to them.

I avoided point form today, so I can touch different subject that’s I get limited to when I focus on one subject. You may be lazy to read books ,listen to audio books or visit this blog everyday and see what’s you get ,the most convenient social media to me is face book Like our page ULwaz No Makhula and you won’t miss doze of inspiration and like Spliff entertainment that’s where we portray our lives into certain extent.

By this I suggest you follow people who are seeking the juice of life and not those who follow the crowd and shinny movements. The reason I’m on blogging is because I’ve been into music for a long period of time now I want new challenge and build audience here who we can influence one another positively.

I won’t repeat things I have mentioned in my other blogs topics ,look for a topic here on self control or on discipline or lessons in life  just keep going I also talk  about awareness in life and ,why you should consider relocating in your current place.

To big dreamers like me, they say dreams come true to those who work while their dreaming ,I’m not a fan of quotes because they lose context most of the time but I got this one when I was doing metric which Mr. Nelson Mandela put it well Metric is a university entry examination so basically that’s what’s you need metric for but other companies has make it a prerequisite as well like it has anything to do with the repetitive jobs they give people.

Since schools are government regulated most of them and few private we all end up having to get this metric certificate  and wanting to take government jobs that’s most doesn’t need. In closing evaluate the things I talked about today and realize the things that’s seem normal may not be really necessary you just have to find a way to distinguish yourself from the rest and live your own way.

The most important thing after breathing is money then time so try to value both this things and you will have trouble free life  ,use time the best effective way you can and enjoy the results and pay attention to money usage and have a balance don’t value money too much till you miss the point and spend your life saving or value time so much that’s you hire a person to change you a globe at night we don’t encourage spending time on things that’s seems unimportant and repetitive as part of life ,when you get to the position delegate all that’s and really lesser focus on your life and business and figuring things out.

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It’s important to find yourself bored sometimes

We are living in a noisy era and I can add it’s been like this for many centuries before this one but we can all agree that’s its getting worse. It’s important to get back to the surface and accepts times of boredom, it may seems like Lockdown was the worst thing that’s has happened in our lifetime but I assure you it’s the best thing, you can start looking at your life objectively.

If things are going smooth during times like this its means you on a right path but if you are hit a bit than that a wakeup call. From financial stand point its clearly means diversifying your investment might be a smart move. Personally you can start practice things like meditations and gym and really incorporate those on your life. Learn mantra’s and all, this are tools to deal with boredom at a highest level and really pay attention to your thoughts.

void is a test of how much your skull thick is

Swing

What’s your life manstra? we all need one of those

If you get too busy, make time to do nothing

You see this is not a public information, no one suggests this in their writings and YouTube videos. It’s all grind and hard work now, that’s ok and but I suggests you get in a zone to be at that’s work mode state so you can switch from your work life, home life and your own physic personal life that’s is at individual level. The phone might be the 1st thing you might need to control and really cut it usage during this time.

I have eliminated the noise on my phone and I constantly find myself bored every moment and then something amazing happen I only think the thoughts that will propel me forward in life. That’s might not happen to you because the content you consume with your busy time and people you hang with don’t put any good information to your mind , you might want to change that’s as well so you will have good ideas and breakthrough during this boredom time.

Having pen and paper always in your disposal can be really be helpful , and don’t think sleeping put you in a mode of doing nothing that’s not true ,your body and mind is always busy and create dreams and nightmare at night mess with your heartbeat a bit.

You will see you have a negative habits when you are bored

I experienced this, if you have extra cash at hand you hurt yourself with it, but if you have a strong will power and discipline you are able to choose apples over hot dog to buy and eat that’s moment. Same to boredom, access to porn or movies and internet entertainment can lead you to want to spend your time doing those things in your free time you set to do nothing. I suggest you fight this urges that’s drives you to want to relax this way. I repeat hit pushups and go hard and couple of sets, play a self-improvement audiobook while you are doing that’s. To those who smokes I know you guys always have something to pass time and that’s not nothing , don’t roll that’s blunt even a snap is way better to your doing nothing time but make sure it doesn’t fall to lazy time. If you have something to do during your nothing time and its urgent please do it and make up for that’s loss time. Hanging out with gents or ladies and talking might seems good at the moment but it will mess with all your growth and beliefs.

Something fascinate me, I have a friend we used to be close really close but since I evolve and grow from every aspect of my life, he no longer want to hang with me the pressure I put on him is too much and I understand and that became a blessing in disguise because instead of going to hang with him I listen to audio book or be busy in my music studio work. Now I have learned to mix my songs because that’s used to be his work but since he no longer want to see me then I keep my distance.

Other friend of mine bought dogs and now I’m scared of dog’s .I don’t like them but it’s nothing personal so I can’t visit that’s friend as well and others are far from where I live so ,now I’m responsible for the company coming into my life because I’m no longer going anywhere. I want you reading to pay attention to all of those who you try to squeeze yourself in their lives, is it worth it. Obviously friendship is nice and important, but now since there is a new distance you can also distance yourself emotionally, sometimes we help our friends because we know their daily routine but now since there is this gab when he/ she needs help its won’t be coming from a friend stand point, that’s might be a way for that’s person to use you on something that’s no longer exist.

You can be able to be proactive rather than reactive

If you can learn this skill alone to accept boredom, you can stop reacting to other peoples reasons for you to get out, you can plan things ahead and really take charge of most of your actions. And this time can open a window for you to re-access what’s really working and where your efforts is spent.

I started writing this blogs , while I had a nice job where I stay inside my work place and go at home only in weekends ,finish work at 16:00 every day ,I’ll hit a gym ,cook ,bath and write then when I sleep I put an interesting TV series that’s will help me fall asleep. Now I’m no longer at that’s job, I’m home now and my life is back and I can do everything I want with my time but it’s would be a big mistake giving up on this project . I’m proactive about it, with that’s said no matter where your life takes you, have this nothing time installed in you, walk around and get your mind thinking.

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As human being we were not made to do nothing, so this time you will have your mind fighting you to do something. And this is the purpose of this moment to figure out what’s to do with your time. Last week while we still at Lockdown I found myself bored and don’t know what’s to do ,but I am a person of principles lot of things comes up as a good action like visiting  a friend but I make myself a oath never go to someone not knowing what’s you going to do to him.

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Why I wrote this controversial topic

From a workaholic view or burn outs that’s might be a thing but people who are moving at that’s pace has a great work ethic and I recommend it. Reading and writing is working too so to all people who like to work physically, move to other skills like listening and really pay attention and connects all the necessary dots to things you listening to .If your girlfriend or spouse talk, be able to process in their tone what’s important and what’s not, Back to the topic, the reason I wrote this I saw a guy I look up too really get frustrated when pandemic began and everything around it.

Since he had to stop working and all the systems he is involved in gat hited a bit now seeing him trying to convince authority to open the doors of work, made me realize there is never one dope strategy to live life and workaholic is really not one of them, that’s why smart should come through and really get away from things that’s seems to make up your life.

At home they call me, the moment I leave home for 2 days and that’s ok but at some point they should see me leaving and really get disconnected a bit intentionally, why? Because circumstances can do this as well, so why we are not practicing as people? They why we take so much hit when a family member passes, we don’t anticipate this moments. Family is important but balance is really recommended, I love my mother and father but the fact that’s I don’t live with them is a real relief the pain is not the same.

So you can count your blessings during that’s time

Social media has become our diaries, but this things disappear and they are now trying to monitor our memories and that’s good but even if you find yourself having amnesia those memories won’t resonate with you. Memories worth remembering you will always remember so, I suggest you don’t take social media’s features seriously and embed them too much in your life.

Have offline tools instead, if you download an offline calendar even if the company who made it, closes you will remain having it. Back to the subtitle Blessings, do you make time to be thankful for things you have achieved? If you too busy you cannot do that’s and moving forward you can’t keep up because you won’t have a north star, you just drifting through life.

Gratitude and be conscious of things that’s are going well in your life, can be a cool realization. I always heard that’s successful rich people hit a gym and trying that’s has showed me wonders, I once hit a gym and felt so fresh and I saw that’s right now I’m really healthy. I can add don’t overdo things, that’s their impact can be undercut by other life challenges. Hitting 2hrs of gym and 0 on your finances is not a smart way to spend your do nothing time.

Stop thinking and start strategizing, I thought strategy was a critical thing a person can do but all it is, is plan of action now thinking is important because you going to think though the strategy .Bu saying I’m thinking of buying a car, is far from saying on December I’m buying a car because I’m saving R4000 a month and my Bonus is so much if I put it, I can get the car I’m aiming for. Now that’s strategy my brothers and sisters.

Once again thank you for hanging with us, this might be a great spot for you on your free time, have something to focus on for few minutes and have your life transformed. Follow us on all social Medias as ULwaz No Makhula, we are LnM in short it’s a new era don’t be excited working physical hard work, put the work in your mind and let your body enjoy life. Have your spirit connect with people and really made the most of the time you spend in this world.

We have attached the a template of a song contract to make artists aware thats the key to successful music is the contracts you sign familiarise yourself with it.

5 points, Why it’s important to keep track of how you spend your day

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As of writing this, I recently does what I have always does after sometime, deleting contacts on my phone that’s no longer useful. I am a music producer and lot of things within music which sometimes needs audience on Social media but when removing contact’s linked with my whatsapp I realized that’s my whatsapp is liability every morning I have a new message from people asking for something to me .a song , a free beat or an advice about music which lead to me opening thing blog ,instead of people consuming my time one by one ,I rather dedicate time and write articles and there is a book by ULwaz No Makhula on Amazon called Music Insider that’s has all the contact’s you will need as a musician. With all that’s said I recommend a book called Deep Work on this topic , without waste of time let’s get to today’s topic.

Life is made out of minites and seconds , the time you misuse is giving your life away.

Mark Twain

1. So that’s you will live life worth living

If you can pay attention, to what’s you do the moment you wake up to the time you sleep, you will see where your life is going. I want us to be realistic here say you have a car and what’s you do is helping people and at the end of the day you have nothing to show for it do you think that’s is good living? Or say you wake up wash your face and go straight to hang out in the store with other guys is that’s worth doing? If you are attacked by this and you wish to respond be my guest but I doubt we will find a common ground. The goal of this articles is to open your eyes and have some cause you living for as going to work year after year is much better but if it’s not backed by a bigger cause you might be drifting through life and you will die to oblivious even to the most people in your life and I will suggest you avoid that’s by all mean. If you are an artist going to record every day and do beats non-stop can be exciting and really time consuming but when all said and done does it help the well living of your bottom line?


The watch shouldn’t exceed your hourly pay though

2.To see if you not spending most of your day in daily choirs and your life is static, not improving.

For a person who is serious about life, my goal is to escape all the menial tasks at home and hire a person to those for me. Others can afford to do this but yet they know if someone do their dishes and clean their house will open a gab in their schedule and they don’t want to face that’s ,while others think it’s the kids job and not to be awkward kids needs to learn this things cause they are basic  in life ,cooking and all but the hard things should be what’s we instill to ourselves and our kids ,that’s reading books of personal development and biographies of great successful people as well as focus on our relationships ,that’s if you are married have time for your spouse intentionally and get out of the noise of daily tasks that’s surely will be worthwhile. Learn and teach about money which is really a challenging subject and a unique thing to deal with but if you can master that’s part all will seems to be running smooth. And your time alone focus on something, it may be hobby or something you feel may make a difference in your community or world. I know you may said let me see what’s this guy says and your life doesn’t go this lines and maybe you already have a worker but I’m sure somewhere you need to clean up and get your life in order.


3. So your will know that’s if you die today, you gave it your best.

As human beings all the worried that’s we have dearth seems to come on top, yet we seems to forget about it when we look at our priorities. I have some business where I have customers and I know more about what’s going on in the service I’m providing then then do from previous experience, because they don’t know some minor challenges is a huge issue with them so you too, you can say but during my day I’m serving people and they complain and all of that’s, the complaints may be valid but you know what’s you need to fix now or 1st that’s even if you die now your family can inherit viable business. So with all the above analogies take action that’s once done will open many possibilities for you , for me was watching certain channels on YouTube they really change my life and I would know who I am if I didn’t stubble on those ,then those channels introduced me to books and book 10x everything as I saw books are hard and you need to develop the habit in order to read and understand them , I took the route of audiobooks ,I still read books cause is the number one way to acquire information and since audiobooks are passive you can miss most important things.


4 To be a better organized person.

So since I lost my job in 2017, its opened me to the other part of life that’s seemed real and tough which if I didn’t lose my work I would’ve thought life is easy and poor people are lazy, loosing that’s job I got another one eventually its didn’t pay as good but still I was arrogant bragging that’s how come people don’t get jobs I just got another one. See my uncle tried to explain to me the privileges I have but I couldn’t understand until I lost that’s job again and realized I wasn’t good at it. Humility grew on me and I started to feel for people who are not doing well in life as I was now a bit in their shoes ,luckily for me I got curious and learnt this new mindset I’m suggesting here, getting back to the point because of the knowledge I have acquired and habits I have instilled in myself the last to jobs I worked in not even once I was late ,why was that’s I became organized as I started to take my day seriously ,automatically I respected my boss ,I even got a job where I wasn’t supervised and that’s compelled me to perform way better so when they barge on me I was on track and it’s all work well for me till I decided to leave and if you don’t plan your life in daily dose  many distractions will come your way you might not write everything you need to do but the one thing that’s you must do every day should be in your head ,saying if every day I did this one hard thing that’s is out of my comfort zone than my day will be worth it ,this suggests even if you don’t know how you going to get paid from this ,doing it and knowing maybe that’s there is a market for it its what’s matters and do that’s for a long whole. We are human one day missed because of the emergency is fine but make up for that’s loss time.


Action ,thats will forever change the trajectory of your life

Reach out to us for any life advice and music related information ,don’t give up ,don’t commit suicide ,don’t reply on your anger before contacting us , we will help you look things from a different angle

5 So you will be efficient in your tasks

In my community nothing seems to be urgent, for youth and technology invading our lives its worse .ULwaz No Makhula which is me and my friend we saw a really powerful work habits combining our music brand together we amazed our fans doing what’s other artists do in a year in 3 months. So in December everyone was going crazy as usual, we had our little craziness but it was mostly work. We submitted our music video that’s we shot on November then we recorded 3 new songs and got helped choosing a single for January then on January we dropped a music video on TV channels and YouTube , February we dropped a single and march we boosted our page and reach 3000 followers and sometime releasing another new song. I know others know people who release more than that is but I will assure you it’s expensive to market music and everything within it, that’s why there are few main players in the game. We were efficient in our tasks, 1. Because we pushed one another and both want what’s best for the group 2. Because we want to be successful as soon as we can for me the beginning of the year all my chips were in the music table and lastly 3. We are clear about what’s we are doing.

So you too, reschedule your day, week, month and so on if you working with someone we are people and ever changing don’t make huge decisions under a spark of a moment try by all means to be objective and lets situation pass and lastly what’s I will recommend the goal of having a partner in whatever you do is not for you to hold back what’s ever eating you inside as well as not bursting without thinking. You may ask to think about it or agree and if you feel you not ok with the decision reconsider but don’t put the whole building done because of a minor misunderstanding. And lastly don’t be a inefficient one in a team. Bonus point!!


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6. So that’s you will have a day that’s you are proud of

Do we average people have this kind of days? I doubt it, or rarely if it’s not my 9-5 that’s fulfill my day then I have a problem. Knowing that’s jobs are simply a economic transaction system I know is a way for me to get money are there other ways yes about 7 or more .But depending on your job or you are in a lockdown as we are now you can feel your job is a gateway drug to something meaningful that’s at least pay your bills. If not you drag to wake up in the morning and let alone doing the work ,I’m not a guru here I’m a 29years guy who  once experienced the day that’s he was proud of ,here it is at the age of 26 after I lost the job I was talking about above ,I simply took my provident fund and decided to build a rental rooms so during the construction I saw a shift in my life ,that’s I wish for you to experience as well in your life time ,its dint matter that’s I was losing money or investing but my Monday was exciting and I couldn’t wait to wake up and arrive at the site because what’s was going on there was mine and it has a potential to change my life forever knowing or not. Those day I ticked off a lot of things on my daily tasks it was amazing lots of good and bad and backstabbing and so forth but it was worth it , I grew with those experiences I was a boss for a moment in charge of a project without proper schooling about this I only knew what’s I wanted. I changed for the better there and what’s happened after changed me more I got encouraged to read more and its was a perfect time for me to change from the old 9-5 working me because I would’ve sided with my workers and nothing would’ve got done. I read books, I understood that’s if you in my position you need to have a way of doing things and mine was be nice but don’t tolerate sh*t and that’s way I manage to go far as I did and learned to cultivate a powerful relationship with my neighbors there whom at first I had my own wrong 30 second preconception about them, where you normally conclude a person character and attitude within 30 sec you met, the book I read called African midwives really helped me. It’s the 1st time I published something with so much of my personal life in it. You will be proud of your days if you really make them yourself and not anyone who comes to you and ask for whatever that’s doesn’t seems to help you but balance.