Why most people don’t care about money yet they think they care

This is a fascinating realization and I might be guilty a bit but most people don’t care about money yet it is so important. You also think you do care about money but the fact is you don’t care, if you love money you would not do things to impress other people with it but you will keep it and impress yourself following social proof is natural but to embrace the important of money you should fight against that’s urge of keeping up with the Jones.

They think money is for spending

Maybe you one of those people who thinks money is for paying bills and buying same food every month well let me burst your bubble money has many functions and bribing is one of them but I don’t mean negative stuff like that’s. Money has a function of making you well off meaning you can become to the point where money is not the reason you wake up in the morning to work for but wake up to spend it wisely and have fun with your life.

Secondly money can make you generous and give to those who has been really been dealt a bad hand not those who have anything functioning in their body yet can’t apply it well. Thirdly money can solve money problems even those that’s doesn’t seems like money problems and on the other hand money can be the problem for you if you are obsessed with it yet can’t handle it.

They have wrong beliefs about money

To be honest I know most of this beliefs but I never consider them or associate them with money I thought it’s something people say’s for no reason. But things you just say have a meaning and if somehow your mind process it you can end up having a negative view of that’s thing.

For example people say money is a root of all evil, which is not true you see how you act with other people money and cutting corners with it says more about you than the money itself. Money is a simple paper which exemplify trade between two people wanting to exchange something ,when your mind tell you to go steal money or keep change and cook books you don’t necessarily want money but you want what’s money can do buy a car a dress and so on.

Penny save is penny earned having that’s back of your mind limit your thinking to only make penny returns on your investment if you think you care about money you shouldn’t think like most people. Dismiss this kind of beliefs and create your own and think big numbers cause it true you attract what’s you think about .Rich people are greedy or selfish is a terrible mindset because its pushes you away from the only people who cares about money who can also teach you about money but if you resent them well you will get the same feedback.

You need to work hard to make money

If you believe this you may care more about your work than money since every month you don’t save as much as you suppose to. Your work ethic is good but that’s shouldn’t be your long term strategy about money cause if so you will never have more than enough and when by luck you do you won’t have time to enjoy it because the source require your attension.

The concept of multiple streams of income comes from this and that is why you don’t need multiple jobs but multiple assets that are pay you every month or every week or every day even every hour without you working physically or mentally for that’s matter except counting your money and tighten the books.

See if you truly love money like I do you don’t entirely leave things to people especially those concerning money you need some level of paranoid until the person you hired has repeatedly proved him/herself then you can trust those people with your family and your life in to a huge extent that’s a family lawyer or your head of security depending on your type of lifestyle Key pay this people well and don’t assume he’s an accountant he will steal some don’t create that’s room.

You think poor people are lazy or can’t think

I’m also quick to judge but in my experience wealthy people realize that’s not all people who are broke made themselves that’s way. They know about circumstances beyond their management and they know that’s we are not equal and slowly but surely I sympathize like this now as well.

In order for you to see how people are suffering because of a lack of tools and resources and even food make yourself a habit of leaving a tip when you buy or eat somewhere and see people who works in places where they earn minimum wage get excited.

All his/her salary covers number of people back at home and for you to say the person is working why should I give him a tip ,says more about you then the person trying to feed his family with minimum wage. Of cause other’s can be lazy and lack effort but those people are the most creative people and put them in the right place they will fasten the job because they want to chill but yet they need and value money.

This goes back to the topic of the day physical lazy people may suspect that’s why should I work hard for money that’s where smart work comes in. Every path towards money has a bit of it challenges you must endure if you really care.

They don’t have assets but have degrees

If you have a lucrative job that’s pays well doesn’t mean you care about money. If you live on that work and buy fancy cars and you have a big house and family you are not focusing on money but focusing on those things.

If your savings and investment is more than your take home you still an average person with a huge paycheck and I’m not trying to diminish your success you are a successful midlle class and that’s a good life but your kids have nothing after you gone and money cannot change a person who is not sophisticated about money.

Teach your children about money if you care about it and learn this financial education yourself, asset’s are things that’s pay you money every month not the ones that’s deduct your account every month those are liability and the bank won’t help you become rich but they can safety keep your money and take their fees for that’s.

So if you think you are rich because you have a lot of money in the bank thinks again you are rich in a sense but that’s just liquidity to help you have a buying power but your net worth shouldn’t be fixed in one place. Why because if that’s one place suffer some unforeseen consequences? Yea you will be out of the game and money tends to get bored and flow to people who can use it so save and invest some.

Thank you money lovers we are together in this ,money has nothing to do with your happiness but it can elevate it so don’t sleep on that it important. Keep bettering yourself and you won’t regret it for disclaimer I learnt this lessons for successful people who don’t consider themselves financials expects so am I take my advice’s with a grain of salt.

But I meant no harm here and nothing I’m selling but let’s follow each other and build powerful relationship LNM (uLwaz No Makhula) on social media.

What’s do you do when you mean well & people think you have interior motives?

Maybe you have been through this and today’s article is not meant to give you an answer but ask for it. On the other hand I want to create an awareness that’s you are not alone, people have been backstabbed couple of times and they don’t trust anyone anymore even people they shouldn’t worry about and automatically push them away.

Why other people can’t accept love?

Love relationship and bonding with family is a hard one in our culture ,we see other races doing well in being united and really embrace the love for one another but I believe in our black community even your own blood when you show them love they think you up to something.

Today I have some kind of headache because I felt being sidelined I really tried to be the best version of myself and try to kindle some family relationship, but I saw that’s my effort is not welcomed I didn’t need to be told I felt it or say my intuition revealed everything to me that’s I was already told but I’m not complaining. My question will be why would this family thinks the worst of me while I’m trying to be myself and practice the bonding that’s will matter in a long run?

What’s will happen to the future bloodline that’s I will create? Should I accept the fact that’s there are member’s of family that’s this kids should not entertain spending time with? I don’t know this is pure love but I’m sure I will have to protect my kids from all the experience I’m having.

The main problem is it’s hard to tell what’s happening am I deceived or it a real thing? I won’t declare my conclusion here but maybe you have gone through the similar thing please comment and let’s talk about it.

Why people who suppose to trust you doubt you?

Its might look like when you are in a company of other people without their other half you are ok and can really be cool and be welcomed or say that’s person is welcome to your place but when you goes to his there is some tension.

Why some other people are really bad with hosting people especially those who are married and treat people so differently from one another and why they expect you to know how to act in their company apart from being yourself? This is questions I’m concerned about and maybe my wife will put me on this awkward position someday but till then this is abnormal for me. I want to make a serious disclaimer other couple are very welcoming and really great hosts, when I visit people I don’t necessary look for this things they just show up and I am a very nice person I know myself so what’s I will suggest is don’t talk too much behind the visitor back, instead tell that’s person directly how things are done around your home and what they need to do after eating or when waking up then having a straight face now and then.

Good gesture and present not well received

Have you ever try to give someone a hug or a present and they act weird like maybe who are you to touch them or what’s do you want in return since you are giving them a gift.

 I have learnt a real lesson some people can really find a way to repay your debt that’s you did out of kindness but you don’t need to know eventually why the good deed other people do for you.

There is more upside into helping people then downside but other always resist help because they have been corned before by corn artists ,but that’s hardly a family member so why a person closer to you sometimes don’t want your help?

This may be wrongly interpreted thinking we deserve help from our families that’s not wrong too but in between there is love shown through helping one another and opening opportunities for one another and so on so the load won’t be on one or two people supporting a family.

 Body Language talk 1000s words and the trick with this is people realize the gesture after you had an important conversation and they are now alone thinking what’s this person meant and why she/he look like this when talking about this?

Why people can’t speak their real feelings and make the other person aware

This might sound like I’m talking about a boy plans and thinks of approaching a girl but end up being scared and not do it but that’s not the case. I’m sure human nature disagrees with the subtitle but people pretend other people because they are scared what’s they might become or thinks they might need them in the future or what? Maybe you have an answer interact with me.

Personally, there are lots of people I don’t like but they’re not close to me so it doesn’t matter anyway, but imagine opening up to someone and set them free, how would that work? I think it’s worth a try or maybe say it in the most polite way possible.

5 Reason’s why new love relationships fails

Hi welcome back to LnM, and to this juicy attractive title. This might help some other’s will dismiss it and continue with their old ways that’s doesn’t work. Some of the tips I share here are quoted in Alux.com YouTube video “What’s woman look for in a man , and vice versa” So if you get sometime go watch that’s it’s going to open your mind .Also Valuetainment on the topic , how to marry and who to marry. But due to demographics situations may differ so for me in South Africa I will be able to really touch on all the reasons why relationship fails that’s happens here in Africa.

  1. Because we don’t study from people who has successful relationships

Failing to study about this, as individuals makes us put our new partners in a hard situation. In everything you do, you need its working mindset that’s can be finance, parenting, work and so on .for you to differ from the rest you must teach yourself.

The council about relationship, shouldn’t come from your player friend, unless you want to be a player as well. And personally I have met ladies and try to date them and show them my intentions earlier because I don’t want to play and waste my time.

For a moment they understand and for some reason’s its seems like all that’s effort is a wrong move and it’s overwhelm them but until I find someone who will get what’s I’m saying I won’t anybody’s time as well as mine. You don’t get it, I politely let you go before we do something we both regrets. Failure to get advice from people who has been dating for 6 months to a year or 3 years, is a sure sign that’s you both will wing it until your relationship dies an early dearth. Then when you are ready to get married, see a pastor or anyone who has been married for a long time.

2. Because we don’t understand what’s love is

I want to be clear,I’m not saying what’s will happen in your new relationship that’s purely up to you and your partner. I’m mentioning the obvious trends that’s usually make relationships fail, other fail before they even begun and I have that’s experience firsthand. Because I am a continua’s learner I tend to know about life then my partner’s and to be honest I have my negative flaws as well but I’m working on them.

Getting back to the point ,not knowing what’s love is , I think is the number 1 problem young and old people who just started dating have. Maybe you have a different way to define love but I will make an example we will all understand. At home my mother has never once said, she loves me but I know she do then the question be how would you know your partner loves you with him/her uttering those words? The answer of real love is there. Love is a verb and verb is a doing word.


My understanding of love is you show it by doing things a lover do to the people they love. If you tell me you love me and leave me like that’s, you don’t really love me. I know others are thinking sex or being with a person in person this will differ to a gender but ladies are not impressed by sex only or mostly they want affection according to the reverend I was listening to yesterday, show them love and bond with them. Then us guys we do love making love, respect and for me personally a simple consideration on your day and how you go about things but I will expand later.

3. We date a person for wrong reason’s

I think anyone reading this subtitle can relate,it can be quite challenging having the kind of woman in our society who values material things but that’s can be a reality that’s should inspire us as man to better ourselves. On the other hand things attracts weak girls so, we shouldn’t take it to heart all of the above can make a relationship fail.

 Dating for convenience is an existential suicide because what’s ever made you fall in love will always be a reminder for one another for example I found him unemployed and I was there for him till he got a job, so he can’t leave me. 1st of all if that’s was your reason to date him in the first place then that’s was a wrong reason because now you make it’s like you won a jackpot.


To us guys as well dating a person because , she can cook ,clean and wash while we chilling at a sofa is a terrible strategy that’s was used by other great grand ancestors. Today a woman who respects you and self-sufficient who you guys meets half way is a 21st century kind of woman you should aim for.

Dating someone because you lonely is also a bad move be rational a bit when getting in a relationship although feelings will take place but acting on them all the time is counterintuitive. By my standards I approached based on chemistry but I cannot always act on that’s because its might happen even if I’m in a happy relationship. Like today its happened but I couldn’t act maybe it was fear as well or place we were at but you get the point.

4 We don’t know what’s makes a good partner

It’s hard to measure a person’s mindset but that’s all there is in a good partner the way he / she thinks and looks at things. Way of talking, dealing with problems some people don’t talk or work through thing they let them pile up until someone can’t handle it anymore. Issues needs attention a good partner don’t lets things slide at the same time let you boyfriend or girlfriend have a life without you.

You don’t have to tag along all the time. Trust and be trusted and don’t do doggy things be upfront all the time and think through your words first especially if you cannot delete the message immediately on whatsapp like other partners do. I have made a rule once I have send a whatsapp I won’t delete it, I rather refrain myself because we are left curious and assume after the person has done that’s. Important person to your life should do that’s.

5. Some are not dating but just browsing

Browsing is a first step to finding a right partner and I want to indicate a mistake I have done and learn later was looking a partner just like me. I want to tell you there’s none , so reading all this just bear in mind the perfect some boys you picture won’t be yours and for a good reasons. You won’t be compatible from a person who has once dated his crush they turn out to be people after all and they have everyday problems and can stress you like every partner you meet. So bear your partner uniqueness and work with it.

Back to the point, rather be single and try to figure yourself out. If you was a problem in a previous relationship, chances you will be the same in the next one so change. I have saw people who started by being players and want to settle down, while cheating to their fiancés, it’s never ends well.


If someone is my fiancé she has a right to take any measures to make our relationship work ,so if she put spy on me say a neighbor girl ,that’s ok because that’s girl should produce a proof if not then it’s a word against hers ,but what’s if that’s is done and you are clean? That’s what’s you should aim for as a man or a woman but what’s if that’s person does the spying thing out of insecurities that’s maybe he/she is the one who is cheating? I want to encourage you don’t worry about it, this things has a funny way of showing up try to leave your life stress freely.

Because if the relationship is old or new there is always that’s what’s if, I want you to drop that’s baggage right now and set your mind free. Cause the stress will eat you alive. If your partner is still wine taste while you there and don’t seem to get better ,call it quit or do what’s will be best for you. Don’t look what’s you might be leaving behind, if it was yours you was not going to fight for it.

6. Because other’s are still hold on to old relationship’s

Usually making examples about myself, can make things clear for other. My longest relationship was 3years and you don’t just get over that’s overnight. That’s why as a person being single sometimes is not a curse but not for way too long. As you dealing with old wounds and so on, then later decide if you have healed to let someone new in your relationship.

I will suggest what’s was suggested to me and made sense , in relationship or business there are things we can never do as individuals and we cannot to it to other’s and you don’t want them to be done to you. They call it 3 non-negotiable .1st day you meet your partner he/she must know if you do this it’s over no questions asked. So maybe you want to leave me and you don’t know how to tell me, cool do one of this things.

You may know this from your previous partner or from other people. Say cheating, drinking alcohol for example. Mine was and still is alcohol, because it’s easy to lose all kinds of virtues once you go that’s path. Maybe other can handle themselves after few drinks but I still don’t recommend it in my relationships, even in friendships this is not good because your friend can change a bit at this point.


You might still be in contact with your ex because of a kid, this might still be a problem in your new relationship .So one of the guy I know simply gave the new potential wife that’s role to deal with his ex for the kid sake and its working well. They don’t meet or talk at all. So figure out your own system so you will not be forced to be hold on to the past.

Has come to an end of today’s insights ,sharing my views doesn’t means you have all tools now to deal with your relationship keep learning from others as well and the most important thing you can have in a relationship is humility and listening skill. Pay attention to things your partner repeats to you, I don’t like this and that’s. And the point is should’ve added is friends influence , once you start a relationship I can recommend not taking advices from friends especially singles ones ,or those who seems to fail to keep a relationship going. Why is that’s they have the most influence on you, I saw a woman’s who cheated and she was about to get married we may never know the whole story but friend is there.

This blog is based on good working friendship by ULwaz No Makhula , friendship is good and it’s important for other people but if you haven’t built that’s brotherhood/ sisterhood friendship really try not to consider their advices. If I’m not in a relationship it’s hard for me to give advices, but I can sympathize with my friend and try to put him/ her on the line by words if I can. Thanks for reading , I would like to hear your views and points you might add below , I want to learn from you as well.