Don’t let temporal situations trick you to making permanent decision

Hi LnM fam we are happy to have you join us today, ever since I realized that’s I don’t remember much from school but I know almost many things about new lessons I have involved myself in and applied it to my life successfully, I have dedicated myself to share all those insight because like me, someone might have a light bulb turned on and have breakthroughs and make his/ her life worth it. Today we looking at the mistake we make on doing things that’s last all our lives without giving them a consideration when we make them.

  1. Tricking yourself to stealing

I once found myself earlier this year working with someone with a lot of money and because I have already install my personal development in my life , I saw  I was tempted to steal and those I was working with encourage me to do this because  we were going to earn less later anyway. I’m not trying to be a hero here but I knew if I did that’s and steal this will lead to a bad habit of taking with less effort rather I should create the more valuable and money paying thing myself than stealing from bosses. This is more important because it tackle the side of us that’s is called loyalty and integrity ,you see if you have a track record of stealing you can never be putted in a position to look after inventory ,stock or money thus you might not get a job at all. This is great example because moment habit would’ve come with me throughout my life. But the main reason for me to start with this one is because its touches our morality and ethics and if those are broken and we cannot be trusted then we can never strive & prosper in this world

2.Your childhood is not a time to make reckless decisions.

When you are a teenager you might think you know how life work but if you are reading this you are lucky because I will tell you the truth “you don’t know anything about life”. Today we went to see our music mate who we grew up with ,who just lost his mom ,he is about to discover more things about life ,like running a household and more that’s parents usually take care of. Being a teenager is a temporal thing but being a adult last longer unless you kept acting like a kid even then. My advice to teenager or anyone with parents right now, try to teach yourself about life and personal development or at least listen to your parents when they tell you don’t do certain things. Tattoo is something we draw when we are young even in places that’s your spouse wouldn’t be proud of ,don’t fool yourself either saying you won’t get married cause that’s being naïve ,you may not want that but you want a love partner so tattoo is not a good idea ,no matter where it is ,it may cost you jobs and other business opportunities because other people value their surroundings. Unprotected sex with total stranger, maybe after some booze you feel like getting some be careful the abortions and babies left in people’s door and without parents is the outcome of people who make decisions out of certain mood don’t be one of them

3. Failure is not fatal and success is not the end

Giving up is normal outcome from failure or being tired ,but as this subtitle says failure is not dearth is just a small setback that is helping you to do correction as well as success doesn’t mean you can now settle down and enjoy the fruits . Both of this simply means be sad and learn and try again or be happy and unwind a bit and get back to it by setting up another target. The trick you can harm yourself with is having a windfall and taking it and spending it all before realizing that’s might force you to go back and look for the job ,while starting a business is not a must because you have found yourself in a positive financial position ,just keep living below your means and enjoy it for the long as it last. Giving up means never attacking your goal one more time and that’s not a way to do it ,just rest when you are tired and come back strong .Get all the motivation you might need because is all over the internet and the other motivation should be within you. As we speak I happen to be a great example right now ,it’s very cold where I am since its winter and I’m sitting in my computer writing for you and I don’t have any heater or air conditioning I just took a blanket and rap myself up 

4.If you are angry wait 48hrs before responding to what’s made you angry

A person who hold a grudge and act on it after a week ,depending on what’s you did to him he didn’t have a week he was in hell you can’t hold on anger for so long unless you revive it every time you see that’s person who did you wrong. I’ve been done wrong several times and if I always try to get revenge on those, I might have had many enemies right now and because I love business I know one day I will make enemies that’s I know and be able to live with but for now I have saw we don’t want revenge we want to prove a point when other’s do us wrong. That’s mentality means we putted ourselves in a position to get scammed or insulted and we want to show others this behavior is not acceptable to us, so you hurt the other person. What if you let it go? You’ll say what people will say, I’m scared of him? The catch if you are not taking revenge for your own justice then doesn’t do it at all because people won’t give you the respond you want and you will be one in jail or anywhere this anger might lead you.

5. Look to the future or better make the most of the moment without regret

The first part may be me, every move I make is directed to the future I don’t know but all I know it will be way better than my present because of my present actions. You may be the YOLO slogan kind of person, so I won’t be a person who gives a absolute advice do something now that’s you won’t regret later ,meaning if having fun now is what’s you want go for it but don’t wish you did something else ,your only live once must not affect your tomorrow situations  ,drink a rent money then tomorrow deal with a landlord . Stay online all the time instead of reading books and bypass the other people mistakes, then you’ll have to repeat the same shit and waste your life. The only thing life needs is balance you can enjoy now and future by drinking moderately, read on a schedules, gym and work this means be more disciplined than ever.

6. Value serious relationships you have and don’t be too eager to initiate new ones

Changing groups won’t work well on your mindset; you will be all over the place since many influences will hit you and your subconscious mind. Changing friends and partners may cause you to expect certain traits to people because of your past experiences, maintain the relationships you have after school and make them work and be worth a while. Forsaking a friend while still having common goal is not a sound move ,or having grudges within the family and not talk for years is bad because it’s the only sentiment relationship you have on earth ,it’s your bloodline and that’s will never change.

Be angry with them, if they hold you back keep the distance but don’t cut them off totally that’s will be making a permanent decision out of short term thing. And unmaintained relationships don’t show fruits so make sure you make use of your time with your loved ones.

I’m sure there is more that’s we find ourselves in and at the end of the day, find our dreams and vision dead at the end and even find ourselves lonely at times ,I hope the list above you can share to people you think they can find value. Please follow this blog and comment as well ,I would love to hear other people speak here thanks .LnM like our page on the left.

Patience and urgency in life is important you need to find balance

Success TV on YouTube say’s they don’t see young people in a hurry to better their lives and I tend to agree. As we grow up we not taught to have missions in life, we know about goals but we are taught as collaret to jobs, buying cars and houses and getting married although those are important they have less to do with your long term livelihood. Today we going to make examples on how life movement should be treated and I will make with myself and please take what’s I say with grain of salt and if you agree to what’s I say the moment I say it then that’s will means its resonate with you and you are making a realization which is my goal.

  1. Don’t rush big decisions and big things

For a young person could be quitting school because of repeating a class ,as much as most of the school information is not necessary in real world but dropping out of high school can create a bad habit of not sticking through tough times in life.

Adult could be getting married after 6 months in a relationship or because you have a baby with that’s person, lot of considerations needed before acting to that’s fairytale and if you already compromising some part of your life for this person the question will be, can you keep up with this behavior after you are married or its going to make your life harder?

Financial decision’s like financing a car, is not a small one but other’s do it because of the secure job they think they have the problem with that’s kind of payment is your ability to save enough or be flexible with your money this can also means at least buy a 2nd car that’s will do the work take you from point A to point B.

  • Patience to me is

Wait for month end busy to dissipate before I make quick stress less shopping, it’s also mean’s not having commitments that’s keep me in a route to the point that’s I cannot leave my present environment. It’s also means till I afford the luxury watch I want don’t open an account for it. Patience mean don’t settling for a job that’s doesn’t impact my life compare to other options I might have this doesn’t not means fooling yourself though ,if the work you can do is gardening so be it , for as long not wanting a job that’s require profession and you want to wing it. Or fake it till you make it, you will get fired the moment you get in, unless it’s a growing company and its trains its own people.

Its means not looking for highs of life in wrong places, endure the boring parts of your life. I don’t know if it’s just me but relationships and any kind of hang out end up in some spending and compromising you don’t want to find yourself in that’s position while you are trying to build a habit of saving. What’s I have done is I have created my own environment in my bedroom is a studio since I’m into music and because I have access to the internet I started this blog so no matter how bored I am I find something productive to do. To avoid missing people who don’t miss you get to do something or really value your 9-5 and make the most out of it.

Be aware of yourself ,don’t let things happen to you all the time ,make things happen for you sometimes and most of the time ,be in charge of your actions and think before reacting to what’s comes next. It’s always has been important to be in a love relationship in my life but how it’s happen, it’s always a matter of chance either I react to a stranger’s smile or entertain inbox on my social media and those have not work well for me so far and I have started to embrace to be single because then things I stress remain few and less about company I keep but money I keep and progress I’m making in things that’s I spend my time doing. I know getting a partner is something that’s I will deal with but the reason they fail for now ,I’m still figuring myself and my life purpose and this contradicts with my recent beliefs and my partners don’t help.

  • Urgency to me is

Quick to act on the right things , starting a business is a lifelong commitment don’t rush to execute but be in a hurry to start and get going and really spend time studying your industry and people who are your customers and worker’s and be paranoid but control it. Decide quick  and do ,delaying things is a bad habit but as I said above you can consider hanging out with friends or read a book .but if the option is read a book or hit a gym then no consideration necessary find a way to do both. It’s been said you need to reward yourself to motivate yourself , I will say there is no reward in life like achieving your goal and realizing it those moments in life that’s I rare and other people won’t experience them in their lifetime.

What’s fun to you? Maybe I’m talking like a businessman or abnormal person but I am very ordinary and me too I have to figure a lot in life. But since I am a musician I have been to clubs and parties as a performer and people seems to be having fun while really open to mingle and get a one night stand, since I don’t drink it’s the strategy I had hard time understanding buy a booze for a stranger with a hope that’s she will agree to come with you at your place and hit it off that’s night.

For a sober person I always take number’s and fails to follow up, but guys have cars and can really get this habit going.

Things that’s keep this successful people in their own right and mediocre to not go up and live comfortably or live ambitious purposeful living is they don’t count the financial and healthy cost of this lifestyle and they can’t maintain certain status with wasted (drunk) moments in their live. So you mustn’t aspire to succeed because you want to party hard that’s really the opposite of what’s you will be suppose to accomplish but that’s your homework.

  • Balance

For things that’s related to your long term goal, in the short term you must do them no question asked but how urgent may differ to what difference it can make now as well. That’s means don’t allude you into progress by doing things that’s won’t matter at all now and in future.

Change is important if you are trying to figure yourself in life, my beliefs change a lot because I read book and listen to them as well and many of my realizations happen during this times because sometimes I have been using the wrong strategy for a while the moment I see it doesn’t work then I change not drastically but slowly adjust and see how things go.

This happens because books contradicts sometimes and that’s where the reader come in to decide cause the key to self learning is not looking for solutions but tools to solve the challenges of life and business, if what’s you read claims to have a secrete to make a million chances its will lie to you or show you the techniques but still you won’t make that’s immediately after you have finished the book.  

The quicker you get the result the riskier it is, rush to finish line but don’t want quick result because the illusion of having a business while having a job is a big mistake. Grow your business to the point that’s you are not needed in it but don’t build slowly to the point that’s you are stuck in being an employed person in your business. What’s I have strived and approach I have used to get my business running is I save money from where ever I get it until it enough for me to start something to also hire a person that’s will replace me while I figure other things out.

  • Don’t mistake urgency for a hobby and patience for laziness.

You can be quick to go to a sport field and play soccer with a hope that’s one day you will be a superstar but we both know that’s might be love and passion pushing you not direction and sacrifice and desire to be in top of your game so be careful like me if I find doing music easy and full myself to putting the work with there is little to no progress.

Don’t say I’m being patient while being lazy of doing what’s you suppose to do, maybe I’m repeating what’s you already know and guilty of my that’s not my goal to put you a victim, my goal is to get you going if you may act now on what’s you suppose to do and thank me later then my goal will be reached.

We can summarize the whole article by don’t rush to buy, rush to sell. Don’t rush to chill rush to work. Don’t rush to commitment keep flexibility .Be the opposite of the masses. I want to close by saying do the work and have a standard for yourself and life can be in a hurry but I will suggest you get moments to deliberate that’s way you can have breakthroughs in your life. Thinking is not acting to thoughts but is to listen to your mind and decide and note of fascinating and important things your mind suggests.

Thanks for paying us a visit, as I always say I may say things without considering your position in life and you might be reading and saying it’s because I don’t know. That’s true and my humility lies with you but as long as you grow yourself now and again you have a chance to find a way out to your adversity. I agree I don’t know your environment, your level of schooling and your life baggage but imagine if you are no longer in this world ,what’s will really matter? How will you be missed? LnM be part of this blog and grow with us, follow us as ULwaz No Makhula.