Practice good relationship with other people

With the world moving to automation people with have more time in their hands and the company we keep will matter more than ever, that’s why today we look at ways to practice good relationship with other people. It’s may be a family member a stranger or a colleague what’s ever it is you will learn something here and possibly some of it it’s just reinforcement of what’s you already know.

Do your parts in maintaining the relationship you value

I am a passionate learner and I try paying attention to a lot of things in my life and at the age I’m at I value relationships although its looks like it’s a spare of a moment thing and other people may think I’m on their case, that’s not the case at all I just value them knowing It or not.

I had an honor of buying my grandpa a birthday present this week last year I failed to do that’s because he had a huge party and I realized my gift won’t matter that’s much but this year no one was paying attention and me myself I pay attention to the fact that he values his birthday when he turned 69 years old and told me no one remembered his birthday and I felt bad and made a commitment to do something in his birthday since he is the elder male in the family and I’m lucky to be close to him since he became so successful in his lifetime.

This story is to make a point that’s the relationships you cultivates grows and fraction is bound to happen but how you come back from that’s makes the whole difference, this also means when you in an argument with an important person in your life or anyone for that’s matter you should think through your words carefully because they may last longer than your sorry.

My goal with this blogs is simple to have likeminded people following me and helping one another go through life with awareness and don’t be sidelined by our work and daily choirs ,blogs are small and straight to the point which makes it a great way to learn.

Avoid having people you bully

Although nature didn’t create us equally and we different in many ways from gender to age , geographical location and mental states its important that’s no one gets bullied as we grow we will lose people but our bad actions shouldn’t be the cause and the main problem you will do this in front of people that’s matter to you and they will change the view of you.

This point will tied close to your own people’s skills ,personally I consider myself bad with the opposite gender thus although I’m looking for a way to improve but I still try not to push it ,Those kind of relations I build them from the foundation of chemistry and if there’s none then I don’t approach that’s party. On the other hand if it’s strictly business or work I’m good working with them if it’s a working environment situation but on my own businesses I still find it hard to collaborate with them.

Last week since I’m involved in a music industry as a producer and an artist I needed a lady to do a photo shoot with and manage to get two unlucky I needed one so I had to stop the other lady.

 The lady took long to confirm and understandably I was just a stranger referred by a friend but it’s took some days to get an answer but that wasn’t the main issue, what’s happened next is, the lady that’s confirmed cancelled on me so I had to go back to the one I stopped two of them friends and to my surprise they rejected me and made a unrelated reason for not helping me.

They said you rejected us while you were the one needing people and they continue saying the world doesn’t revolves around us as artists, I was supposed to be considerate and think of them as their students they have classes so it a no.

 I thanked them and postponed the shoot and the issue here is that’s they might have had a point but they said more than necessary and if you disagree please comment below. So this another form of bullying we get from our fellow human beings and I have been on the watch on such behavior and my music company doesn’t have female artists and luckily no one has ever want to and I’m not looking.

Know your weakness when it’s comes to relations

The above is a conscious awareness of me and limitations, for 50 cent is his family he’s good at almost everything he does but terrible with keeping it’s cool with his family by certain extent and he’s aware and working on it. What about you maybe we men come across too violent or you find it hard to influence other people near you thus failing to build mutual respect with other people.

There is the book I’m reading crucial conversation is a perfect book you need to conquer your weaknesses, be alert to what’s beliefs your surroundings had installed in you to hate certain people in my culture is a normal thing for mother’s to fight the battles of their exes with a kid and the kid end up hating father maybe the father made things worse by pulling back maintenance support to the little child who has nothing to do with your fights.

 At this point I understood that’s as parents we should not prevent children’s from seeing our fights so they will learn from them and make the decision either they adopt the bad behavior or they tell themselves that’s they will never treat their partner like this or on the bright side if you start thinking of dodging the kids to the bedroom conclude not having this fight at all.

 I’m writing from other people’s experiences because I’m not yet married or anything like that’s but I have been once in a room with parents fighting and my kid shouldn’t go through the fear I did when that’s happens.

Be honest and tell the truth all the time and face the consequences

Truth always has consequences and for me it’s the route I had always took and repercussion dealt with ,It not an easy thing and you have to endure a lot of stress towards revealing a truth of what’s might happen. Face to face with other people around is a better place because is closing behind closed doors the reaction may be uncontrollable.

This apply to your work in Toyota they encourage a worker coming forward after doing a defect in a car in an assembly line other than hiding a defect with a potentially of killing the whole family on the freeway.

 Ever since I have started businesses none have had success that’s I can say this was a milestone reached it’s a lost after another although something I can live with but the regret of not trying would be much worse in my later life and this blog is a product of starting something and keep pushing and be true to myself that’s I don’t know when I will succeed here.

Have a heart ,know what’s the world needs to know and what’s not about your life for example you wouldn’t tell the world that’s you have a bad habit of masturbating if you did there must be a huge chance you don’t take yourself seriously and no one will ever do. I know my example is not a comfortable one but my point will also be family matters and dark side of it should be kept a family matters not face book.

Raise your standards and show how you want to be treated

When people attack you try to keep a low profile and don’t rise to their anger and that’s on its own will make them realize you don’t entertain noise you just want solutions and understanding.

 The standards reflects of the quality friends you keep and family treats you the way you present your goals and beliefs personally I don’t believe in what’s my elders believe in and thus they know how to treat me in certain situations. Respect is important and really thinks of other people when you go through certain big decisions because it will affect them one way or another.

You may drink but if you act like a drunk you will be treated as such, you may be a church goer but be sidelined by your bad deeds trust me the bad deeds will out shine your church going habits. Life is not black and white and I’m not saying I’m 100% right in all the bold statements I make but if you want to make good relationships you must be a reflection of what you is want. If you found some valuable insight on today’s piece let us know ,thanks for taking the time and drop your own advice if you are a blogger below on the comments and tell me how can I improve my weaknesses that’s that’s I mentioned above. This is LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) on all social media.

What’s does money represent?

Money can be a test of character for me and I understand it clear to that’s angle and I have tried to never cut corner when it comes to money. The question I want you to ask yourself when it comes to money handling and engaging and trading, what it represents to you?

Worth your time

How do you test people’s integrity?

Tempting people might not be an ethical thing to do but if you going to deal with money and have those people by your side you might consider testing them. E.g. here at home they know how much I value money so my mom knows she has to pay me back my money when she takes it and I do the same.

Now she’s family I’m not suppose to mind but this makes us put money in its place and don’t let it put tension in our biological relationship. Now let’s say you deal with people out of you immediate family, I suggest you test their physiological thinking with money and their beliefs a bit and at least try to lead them to your way of thinking if it’s working.

Put people in a position where they can steal your money or they can use it and report the usage to you like you won’t see. Do these now and again if this person will be engage in your funds and business for the long term?

Money is not always equal in value to what’s it can buy.

The experiences, the quality relationships, the moments (graduations, funerals, funny moments in the house, having your family around) money can add pleasure to this experiences but it’s not key .

On other hand money is so powerful it can initiate a spark with your love of your life who can initially love you for your money and later realize your other important traits and then money start to matter less in a long run.

Or your money being represented by the equity you own in real estate or different type of investments and businesses, here we not talking about paper or digits on the screen but the actual things you own that’s makes you valuable in your community and market place,

while looking after your livelihood in this case Money is Bigger than its sum buying a land is more valuable than having lot of money in the bank if you can make the money out of this land. Buying a online land is also important in this century although that’s is a financial move its still represent some kind of ownership.

It’s a management theory

Between you and your employer money is a tool to facilitate one’s need so it’s a form of trade. Working is also management theory ,that’s how the society is managed by private companies and government  and keep the world turning but that’s doesn’t mean we cannot survive without living it’s cheap to survive ,what’s expensive is the luxuries that’s we are working for everyday and they are not a bad thing in fact they make our lives easy.

But don’t think you cannot live without them or you need them ,the actual thing you need is shelter ,food and few clothing the rest is a bonus even side effects that’s comes from abundance is a sign that’s we sometimes use money for bad indulgence which is not good for us.

Abundance is good but it’s needs responsibility from those who wants its and those who posses it. Since money is sometimes lose its value it’s important to understand that’s the better investments are things that’s grows in value not saving money in the bank it’s self.

Money is security and builds confidence

I’m yet to see someone who has money but scared of everything ,from personal experience if I have a job , money and things are going well in my life I tend to be really confident and my awareness grows because I need to protect this cash from strangers that’s want it with less effort.

Not everything can be solved with throwing money at it, but some and most do meaning you might be secure to what’s ever life throws at you. Health challenges money is there, new born on the way money is there, someone just died money is there or maybe you want to get married money is there.

Other’s don’t have it and when life needs it tool of survival which is money they get poor service or left to die because they cannot afford to take care of themselves. Alux.com always say is expensive to be alive, I agree so get your money right my friend.

Earning of money comes from an idea that’s is executed

Idea alone doesn’t give us money ,I always write my ideas and when it’s come time to take action I invest on something totally different or what’s I already know that’s its work.

Other’s think people with money are lucky meaning having money for these people is a matter of luck and their not are lucky enough. But also other people have a bad idea about money and money is not all those beliefs e, money is not roots of all evil if you believe that’s please change and find a better understanding ,don’t associate money with being bad and people who owns it are evil that’s too is a bad information you have to change.

You attract what’s you think about if you ideas are poor wishes and hating the good life then you won’t have good ideas that’s will lead you to having money.

Thanks for hanging with us I hope our mindset rub to you a bit and you can start having better view of money. LnM follow us as ULwaz No Makhula on all social media, comment below and let’s have some good reads below.

Money is a time saver

I won’t elaborate much on this one is quite self explainatory ,but just to do justice people with money can bypass a lot of stumbling blocks of being poor , the connections and the doors are always open and money can afford to push them wide open without distroying relationships.

Money is a lot of things and that’s being a good hearted personif you have it giving can be a good habit to instill in your life. Giving make you feel good and like every tasks that require money when i give i feel like removing load of my back in a positive way cause its something we take for granted sometimes.

I have learnt to give cashiers when i buy something in retails and make sure it can at least cover the bus fee or more and i hope i will improve in this one.

Why do we hide our realities and fake life on social media?

We think we are brands Actually we are not at least not most of us. We are living in a society that’s promote the personal brand which contradicts with who we really are. You see if you can base your so called brand into your actual living than that will be ok.

But if you have to put some ad on to fool strangers online then you are doing yourself a disservice cause you self sabotaging yourself claiming to be something you are not and that’s will take a toll on you ,the stress you will have will be linked to this fake life of yours . While you will be making money in real life hard work where you will drag mornings and complicated work politics .

You won’t see its not worth it to take that’s money and buy fancy phone and clothes to have more followers on social media especially when you don’t even have a talent or skill you are promoting just your looks or clothes you printed and try to sell it online. If you take time and do the math, see if you are losing or winning you will see whether to continue or stop making full of yourself.

Now I’m not totally bashing social media, but you need to study the platform you are using and if you happen to make money at least after 1-3 years then you might on to something. You need to understand if your online presence differ more than your reality, you might suffer online trawlers who call you scammer or fake model, and to girls social media might really be dangerous since you guys like to expose your body for the same reasons .

Now there’s a whole industry based on Twitter where woman monetize their nude content,I wouldn’t recommend this strategy of making a living to a person who reads our blog . Self love and sexiness cannot be contradicted and things you learn about body sexiness and woman power has nothing to do with exposing your body online .

The question you should ask yourself why am I doing this? If is needing money then get a job ,if you want a partner go out more and let go of this twerking stuff.

The hook ups are an industry but their risky because you might end up being a victim of human trafficking. And you might have a problem when you want to start a life of a motherhood and wife because past will reach out and try to ruin anything. For example I had to say no to one of my ex who asked for my private part picture since I had a aspiring music artist ,imagine having that’s out there when I make it eventually .

Social media make us miss the moment and our real background, a post that’s I saw once saying know your home situation and get out of instagram. Now say your house is falling can you take a picture in that’s? No you will be busy trying to fix it. This also apply to not enjoying a meal and get together since phones dictates the event ,if you can try with your friends and leave the phone’s and bring real camera you might experience this times better and the best memories are kept in our minds you don’t need a phone to do that’s.

How you deal with problems? I use to have a habit of posting everything even things I delete after I get back to my senses. Now I invest time and reread what’s I post and how it may diminish the person I may be attacking and maybe I cannot take back. The maturity will be when you really remove your life from social media , what’s I normally do now I go on face book and post links of my music and this blogs rather than engage in funny topics that are there and  harmful language .

The social peer pressure we are getting is too much event the funeral are way expensive because some of this humble events are now recorded and people find wearing all black cool ,while the family is mourning. The goal of this article today, if for you to separate your life from social media even though like the future is going there, but it’s not look for other value out of it. The only thing you can try online is selling and really make money there if not there is no point, even positive quotes has lost it meaning because its comes from the book you might never read because you read posts.

Thanks I hope I have opened your eyes a bit today, becareful the most dangerous thing on social media is bad influences and repetition the habits of logging in and out and in and out every second. People swear there and others try to act like their smart, while others copy and paste jokes, don’t fall for it. LnM , please like our page on face book as ULwaz No Makhula.

What’s Values artist or producer should have?

Values, Principles, Philosophies and the way of believing and what’s you see as the right thing within the roam of music. Welcome to this episode of LnM Show, where we talk about life of music and people within in. If it’s the 1st time seeing us please  subscribe so you will get more insight in the future ,if there’s a point you agree or disagree with comment below and we will correct that .Let’s get to this values.

  • 1 Don’t backstab or exploit other creative’s.

This is the most important point because we see music as rough games where others take advantage of others due to the level them at or simply because they know that they know less. Thing like paying fraction to a producer who made a beat that help you make a hit ,eventually the producers will see you flossing while he’s struggling and will resent you and maybe hate you. You may say everyone has haters, then we say this one has a motive. ULwaz No Makhula are independent artists making bigger moves we actually talk to producers how we going to work ,then they charge us or want a percentage and we always willing to pay although we know recording is just a start there is still marketing and distribution , branding and shoots producer by then is nowhere to be found to contribute which leads to my second point ,rather have an in-house beat maker who will have to sacrifice as much as we do , so when cheese come it will be spitted accordingly. Fair % on royalties is important.

Be trustworthy on your dealings

Contracts are a routen for the rich ,not a necessity for untrusted dealings

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  • 2 Artist should Value time.

Before I elaborate we keep on saying artist and we may be boxing ourselves but some of this apply to everyone but let’s just say this point apply to everyone within the music industry and other sectors. Musicians seems to take time for granted they have a lot of downtime where they do nothing , smoke weed and codeine which may not be good for their health and to the kids watching to their favorite celeb they end up thinking smoking is cool which is not the case. So what’s do we suggest to so much time artists have,don’t be just an artist get into business as well till today we have realize with my friend that if we have free time we do ill so we needed to find a way to fill our time with something valuable and that will make us appreciate doing after its have been done. You can write a book ,Make youtube videos or do more songs but you need to always busy if you not doing music related things otherwise you will be out there playing celebrity and that not a good trade off spending all your days at Shisanyamas and liquor.

  • 3 Value your fans have self-control

It’s tempting to feel big when people treat you as such; you deserve it, enjoy it and be smart about it. I heard that Casper nyovest cannot talk back badly to his fans on social media especially on twitter because he had some contracts that can be bridged if he does that. What’s we saying make it your habit to take note of fans points good or bad and Improve or dismiss but we don’t think it’s good retweeting you fan mean tweet, with your mean retweet you not suppose to pay attention to that or answer politely because there’s a saying that I heard on Alux.com channel that say when fools are arguing you don’t see which is which .So hold your anger and breath it out..On Valuing your fans,we might’s add this as a disclaimer fans will always talk good or bad and there will  be your day ones , there’s a lot can be said about you but fake shouldn’t be one of them don’t fake it for PR and don’t fake it for your fans ,they see the fake smile ,they see and feel the tension between artists and they definitely see the subliminal posts on face book and they connect the dots and make a story. What’s ever that can trend without your intent is good for your brand but we don’t like pulling stunts especially negative ones so we could get attention why because people thinks that your real side you’ve been hiding so if we could have a PR person that can lack creativity we can have a problem.

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  • 4 Value your worth

Money is the name of the game but standing your ground is also important disagreeing is not a bad thing if the other party understands and sees your point of view. If say you charge a performance fee if the offer is too low, you don’t even have to say how much you need to that because you see it’s not going to end well anyway that where you can involve a manager to get rid of that promoter if a good manner coz one day he might afford you .Remember point number 2 of time your worth also links all that. That why as artists we need to start to be more creative and become more than we are say if you have me in your show I will perform and talk you see my worth automatically jump coz not every event has tipsy dry fans, some have elders and youth that still needs to be conscious about life so if you could offer both you can have your own niche.

  • 5 Artists should value their fellow artists that are trying to come up.

You will feel threatened by a hot kid in the streets unless you willing to mentor that kid, and we would recommend the latter .It was great seeing big artists pull other big artists when their small. being thanked is a wonderful thing and leave that artist the homework of doing the same .What’s I like about music it’s never get crowded at  the top there are too much followers for that some love Sjava , some loves Cardi b , Some Loves ULwaz No Makhula and so on and so on. Millions of fans indeed you just have to grow yours once the door has been opened for you.

Now it that time of the show where we bounce back and let you pounder this and attach them into your life as early as possible. Become a hero to yourself by having the right principles and values. We have videos next that you will learn from as well so get into it or if you see this one in one of your friends we are ULwaz No Makhula on all socials. Press the notification bell so you will know where we release new content like this…If you are a fan of this channel you know there’s a bonus.

  • 6 Value everyone within the industry who helps your career in anyway.

From your mom and dad to people who set up a stage for you ,bring you a mic ,water or towel your hardworking manager ,the person that believed in you and signed you ,the bouncers ,people who shows love in the street ,value each and everyone. You will probably ask how I can keep track of all this , well it’s not easy but it’s something you can do ,lets us share how we do it, 1stly the person who interact with your calls you with your stage name so you should be aware of that and treat that person nicely ,people who calls Lwazi ,Malwazela or Swing they get special treatment the moment they utter those words because of the connection…be aware of the moment if you take the mic show gratitude to the person giving it to you before you get on stage. And have a team in place that I mentioned above that will keep you in check and that why you should share this with them. I don’t know how can you be polite to the deejay playing for you even if he put the wrong song by mistake  .See when you on stage entertain people but look out for subtle things that you can do that your fans might take home with them because they were so bad. Don’t make a face when a mic doesn’t work rather make a joke about it while its being fixed .So in this point take the fact that your moments matter the most good or bad how you react makes or eat the life out of your good values.

We can’t wait to come back with other interesting topics so check more videos of ours that you might have not read or download our song for free on the links in theposts Thank you for your time we out LnM .   

Value other peaples personal space

If you come to someones live ,for any reason don’t demand things you have not pay dues for , thats will be respect and services anything thats might rub other person a bad way . So becareful no one is obligated to answering your DM and inbox so wait and be respectful dealing with people and even if you going to pay , thats doesnt give you a right to emotional blackmail a person you need help from.