With the world moving to automation people with have more time in their hands and the company we keep will matter more than ever, that’s why today we look at ways to practice good relationship with other people. It’s may be a family member a stranger or a colleague what’s ever it is you will learn something here and possibly some of it it’s just reinforcement of what’s you already know.
Do your parts in maintaining the relationship you value
I am a passionate learner and I try paying attention to a lot of things in my life and at the age I’m at I value relationships although its looks like it’s a spare of a moment thing and other people may think I’m on their case, that’s not the case at all I just value them knowing It or not.
I had an honor of buying my grandpa a birthday present this week last year I failed to do that’s because he had a huge party and I realized my gift won’t matter that’s much but this year no one was paying attention and me myself I pay attention to the fact that he values his birthday when he turned 69 years old and told me no one remembered his birthday and I felt bad and made a commitment to do something in his birthday since he is the elder male in the family and I’m lucky to be close to him since he became so successful in his lifetime.
This story is to make a point that’s the relationships you cultivates grows and fraction is bound to happen but how you come back from that’s makes the whole difference, this also means when you in an argument with an important person in your life or anyone for that’s matter you should think through your words carefully because they may last longer than your sorry.
My goal with this blogs is simple to have likeminded people following me and helping one another go through life with awareness and don’t be sidelined by our work and daily choirs ,blogs are small and straight to the point which makes it a great way to learn.
Avoid having people you bully
Although nature didn’t create us equally and we different in many ways from gender to age , geographical location and mental states its important that’s no one gets bullied as we grow we will lose people but our bad actions shouldn’t be the cause and the main problem you will do this in front of people that’s matter to you and they will change the view of you.
This point will tied close to your own people’s skills ,personally I consider myself bad with the opposite gender thus although I’m looking for a way to improve but I still try not to push it ,Those kind of relations I build them from the foundation of chemistry and if there’s none then I don’t approach that’s party. On the other hand if it’s strictly business or work I’m good working with them if it’s a working environment situation but on my own businesses I still find it hard to collaborate with them.
Last week since I’m involved in a music industry as a producer and an artist I needed a lady to do a photo shoot with and manage to get two unlucky I needed one so I had to stop the other lady.
The lady took long to confirm and understandably I was just a stranger referred by a friend but it’s took some days to get an answer but that wasn’t the main issue, what’s happened next is, the lady that’s confirmed cancelled on me so I had to go back to the one I stopped two of them friends and to my surprise they rejected me and made a unrelated reason for not helping me.
They said you rejected us while you were the one needing people and they continue saying the world doesn’t revolves around us as artists, I was supposed to be considerate and think of them as their students they have classes so it a no.
I thanked them and postponed the shoot and the issue here is that’s they might have had a point but they said more than necessary and if you disagree please comment below. So this another form of bullying we get from our fellow human beings and I have been on the watch on such behavior and my music company doesn’t have female artists and luckily no one has ever want to and I’m not looking.
Know your weakness when it’s comes to relations
The above is a conscious awareness of me and limitations, for 50 cent is his family he’s good at almost everything he does but terrible with keeping it’s cool with his family by certain extent and he’s aware and working on it. What about you maybe we men come across too violent or you find it hard to influence other people near you thus failing to build mutual respect with other people.
There is the book I’m reading crucial conversation is a perfect book you need to conquer your weaknesses, be alert to what’s beliefs your surroundings had installed in you to hate certain people in my culture is a normal thing for mother’s to fight the battles of their exes with a kid and the kid end up hating father maybe the father made things worse by pulling back maintenance support to the little child who has nothing to do with your fights.
At this point I understood that’s as parents we should not prevent children’s from seeing our fights so they will learn from them and make the decision either they adopt the bad behavior or they tell themselves that’s they will never treat their partner like this or on the bright side if you start thinking of dodging the kids to the bedroom conclude not having this fight at all.
I’m writing from other people’s experiences because I’m not yet married or anything like that’s but I have been once in a room with parents fighting and my kid shouldn’t go through the fear I did when that’s happens.
Be honest and tell the truth all the time and face the consequences
Truth always has consequences and for me it’s the route I had always took and repercussion dealt with ,It not an easy thing and you have to endure a lot of stress towards revealing a truth of what’s might happen. Face to face with other people around is a better place because is closing behind closed doors the reaction may be uncontrollable.
This apply to your work in Toyota they encourage a worker coming forward after doing a defect in a car in an assembly line other than hiding a defect with a potentially of killing the whole family on the freeway.
Ever since I have started businesses none have had success that’s I can say this was a milestone reached it’s a lost after another although something I can live with but the regret of not trying would be much worse in my later life and this blog is a product of starting something and keep pushing and be true to myself that’s I don’t know when I will succeed here.
Have a heart ,know what’s the world needs to know and what’s not about your life for example you wouldn’t tell the world that’s you have a bad habit of masturbating if you did there must be a huge chance you don’t take yourself seriously and no one will ever do. I know my example is not a comfortable one but my point will also be family matters and dark side of it should be kept a family matters not face book.
Raise your standards and show how you want to be treated
When people attack you try to keep a low profile and don’t rise to their anger and that’s on its own will make them realize you don’t entertain noise you just want solutions and understanding.
The standards reflects of the quality friends you keep and family treats you the way you present your goals and beliefs personally I don’t believe in what’s my elders believe in and thus they know how to treat me in certain situations. Respect is important and really thinks of other people when you go through certain big decisions because it will affect them one way or another.
You may drink but if you act like a drunk you will be treated as such, you may be a church goer but be sidelined by your bad deeds trust me the bad deeds will out shine your church going habits. Life is not black and white and I’m not saying I’m 100% right in all the bold statements I make but if you want to make good relationships you must be a reflection of what you is want. If you found some valuable insight on today’s piece let us know ,thanks for taking the time and drop your own advice if you are a blogger below on the comments and tell me how can I improve my weaknesses that’s that’s I mentioned above. This is LnM (ULwaz No Makhula) on all social media.